As part of its awareness campaign, 498a.org is releasing the anguished
cries of the victims that come here for help in various stages
of being devastated by a law that presumes that they are guilty
without even giving them a semblance of a fair chance. The options
they have are either to give in to their wife's demands of astronomical
amounts of money or waste 4-5 years in the court to prove themselves
innocent. We have thousands of victims who are waiting to be heard.
We are releasing 100 stories for now and will release more stories
from time to time. These stories have NOT been specially selected
and have not been edited except that names etc. have been edited/changed.
See how innocent men and women are vitimized by the draconian
498a law. See for yourself how easy it is for a wife to use this
case to destroy an innocent man and his complete family. Look
at how distressed people are when they contact us (some even considering
suicide).Look at failed relationships, failed marriages and how
kids just become pawns in the hands of unsrupulous women. Look
at all the injustice that has been meted out to these families
and see how some of them were betrayed by someone they considered
their own. Feel their pain and the sting of the stab if you can.
Victim No. 1 from R.O.Ireland
Victim No. 2 from New Delhi
Victim No. 3 from mumbai
Victim No. 4 from secunderabad
Victim No. 5 from Hyderabad
Victim No. 6 from CT, USA
Victim No. 7 from Dubai
Victim No. 8 from Los Angeles, USA
Victim No. 9 from NJ, USA
Victim No. 10 from HOWRAH
Victim No. 11 from chandigarh
Victim No. 12 from kolkata
Victim No. 13 from Jaipur
Victim No. 14 from JHARKHAND
Victim No. 15 from United Kindonm
Victim No. 16 from mumbai
Victim No. 17 from New Mumbai
Victim No. 18 from New Jersey
Victim No. 19 from bangalore
Victim No. 20 from New Jersey, USA
Victim No. 21 from USA
Victim No. 22 from UP
Victim No. 23 from Texas
Victim No. 24 from Mumbai
Victim No. 25 from Sydney, Australia
Victim No. 26 from Singapore
Victim No. 27 from India
Victim No. 28 from Hyderabad
Victim No. 29 from Gurgaon (Haryana)
Victim No. 30 from London, UK
Victim No. 31 from THANE, MUMBAI
Victim No. 32 from india,AndhraPradesh.,Nellore
Victim No. 33 from Australia
Victim No. 34 from hyderabad
Victim No. 35 from Coimbatore
Victim No. 36 from Delhi
Victim No. 37 from mohali ,punjab
Victim No. 38 from London
Victim No. 39 from kurukshetra - haryana
Victim No. 40 from London
Victim No. 41 from CANADA
Victim No. 42 from Jakarta,Indonesia
Victim No. 43 from faridabad (India)
Victim No. 44 from Lucknow(Currently London)
Victim No. 45 from Canada
Victim No. 46 from Mumbai
Victim No. 47 from San Francisco, USA
Victim No. 48 from delhi
Victim No. 49 from hyderabad
Victim No. 50 from baltimore
Victim No. 51 from bangalore
Victim No. 52 from india
Victim No. 53 from US
Victim No. 54 from Gurgaon
Victim No. 55 from california
Victim No. 56 from Hyderabad/mumbai
Victim No. 57 from Jalandhar
Victim No. 58 from USA
Victim No. 59 from Kolkata
Victim No. 60 from Mumbai, mahashtra
Victim No. 61 from US
Victim No. 62 from Patna
Victim No. 63 from bangalore
Victim No. 64 from a
Victim No. 65 from agra
Victim No. 66 from lucknow
Victim No. 67 from Hyderabad
Victim No. 68 from Gurgaon
Victim No. 69 from New Delhi
Victim No. 70 from pune-mumbai
Victim No. 71 from amritsar
Victim No. 72 from Chennai
Victim No. 73 from Bhopal, MP
Victim No. 74 from Australia
Victim No. 75 from Abu Dhabi (UAE)
Victim No. 76 from jharkhand
Victim No. 77 from Mulund
Victim No. 78 from London
Victim No. 79 from Delhi
Victim No. 80 from Delhi
Victim No. 81 from Mangalore
Victim No. 82 from Kolkata
Victim No. 83 from Madras
Victim No. 84 from Byculla, Mumbai - 400008
Victim No. 85 from chennai
Victim No. 86 from USA
Victim No. 87 from Andheri(w),M\'bai.
Victim No. 88 from Delhi
Victim No. 89 from punjab
Victim No. 90 from Mumbai
Victim No. 91 from Fremont,CA
Victim No. 92 from madras
Victim No. 93 from Howrah
Victim No. 94 from belapur, New Bombay
Victim No. 95 from new jersey
Victim No. 96 from United kingdom
Victim No. 97 from Bangalore
Victim No. 98 from Lucknow
Victim No. 99 from thane
Victim No. 100 from delhi
No. 1 from R.O.Ireland
Married In India, No Marraige Cert. therefore Court marraige
where one swers not already married in Ireland.Wife did a Masters
Univ.Degree,and worked as an assistant Law Librarian for Barristers,
Left on the day got a passing result in Exams. which were received
on Return after4 weeks in India.
Bought one way ticket from own funds and never wrote back.
Divorce Petition filed in U.K. as I am domicile of U.K.She refused
to accept petition, a lawyer in Agra hired who served the petition.
MAIN WORRY IS CAN 498A BE FILED WITHOUT OUR KNOWLEDGE, AND CAN
MY FAMILY VISITING INDIA BE ARRESTED ON ENTRY AT ANY AIRPORT.IS
IT WISE NOT TO TRAVEL TO USUAL INTERNATIONAL AIRPORT/
HOW CAN WE GET A LAWYER WILLING TO COMMUNICATE BY EMAIL, AS
OPPOSED TO ON PHONE AND SAY ONE THING ONLY TO GET MONEY FROM
NRI.I AM NOT WEALTHY ONLY A WORKING CLASS MAN.
P.S. I DO NOT OWN A PROPERTY NOR A CAR.
No. 2 from New Delhi
I get married in march this year all thing is going well my
family is educaed n i am a government servent even we pay half
for the marriage arrangement which is to be bear by the girl
family problem starts when my brother which is working in another
state transferred in our city so my father shifted us to bigger
room in the same house and brother to small room that time my
wife is not there when she came back she had talk falsely to
my father n mother that why they shifted her room and shouted
on them after that she took her own jewellery and my mother
jewelery which my mother gave her to wear on some party occasions
then she left her house and moved to her mother house it was
about a month back till then whe lives with her mother whenever
i talke dto her she old me that she want to live alone now she
start syaing we will live in my father\'s other house but i
dont want to leave my famliy and feared of that she would file
a case against me and my family. after marrige she regularly
goes to meet her mother as her house in the same city just 5-6
Km far from house she even ho 4 times a week at her house. when
i told her not to go there she threaten me to do sucide. whe
is pregnant and from her mothers family some people start rumoring
to our relatives that we beat her and we thrown her out of the
house. tell me what to do what is the solution of that problem
No. 3 from mumbai
I year 2000 - my wife says that i am not handsome & she is not
satisfied in sex with me - she got married only because he is
afraid of his Seven brother - because they chose me, but same
think she don\'t tell it in front of her brother - making false
statement I was charged with a 498(a), i lose the case, jude
gave me 1 year imprisment, I applied in upper court - we compromise
it - Now (from 2004) i am staying with wife at with her parent
& brother residence, again same thing she is doing - in alone
she is shouting,abusing me. All my salary she is taking I am
not giving a single penny to my parents. I am the only son of
my parents. Again her mom & brother is saying that live with
her otherwise again they will file 498 complaint - they are
not ready to listen to me that she dont want to live with me
- she make false statment that i am shouting her beating her.
Her mom & brother listen to her what she say is right what i
say is false, in front of them she become very inocent.
Suggest me how to overcome from this situation....
No. 4 from secunderabad
i got married in the month of may in 2004, she stayed with us
for two months then suddenly she raised a issue to separate
to live from my parents,(since her parents came to the city
where we r living).
i refused to stay without my parents...then immdtly she has
given me two options
1.i have to transfer all my assets on her name if she lives
with my parents
2.i have to live separately with her along with her parents
i refused for both options......
since then the negotiations r going on but ultimately they have
taken extreme step to file the case.
so finally they filed the case on three of us(myself,mom and
dad).when they filed the case i was out of town so my parents
faced this worst situation and one night they were behind the
now they came for out of court settlement.....could u pls help
me how to go about it?
No. 5 from Hyderabad
I was on the verge to going to US..and 498 stuck me....through
my wife. why would a person earning in dollars do dowry harrasment?
police didnot hear...now the law is taking its own time.....
Justice delayed is Justice denied.
I want everybody indiviual whose life had taken this worse turn..to
take up this cause and fight against injustice and force women-friendly
government to change laws to an extent this law doesnot get
misused. Yes..i do agree...some women are facing problems.....but
even boy\'s mother & sisters are also women...which law is protecting
them for this ?
No. 6 from CT, USA
I have been in the same 498A Fraud case since last 6 years,
fighting with my inlaws who are from Ajmer, we are from Mumbai.
- Please advise if we can get the case transferred from Rajasthan
to Mumbai. How to go about.
- What is the time period for such cases
- FIR has been filed for my entire family, except for me as
I was in the USA at that time.
- Interpole\'s role, in these case.
Any support group in NY, NJ or CT
No. 7 from Dubai
Iam a muslim and working at Dubai and got married in June,2005
that she is M.C.A After marriage i lived with her for 18 days
and left to Dubai. AFter my left, the bride\'s parents took
her place. As the bride given false info that she is M.C.A and
I started asking about M.C.A copies and Marriage certificate
for visa processing from Dubai. As she is not responding and
delaying I found through university and got she didnt complete
her exams. As she lied always and mother in law is in dominatingly
and started accusing me and my family as they found guilty.
I shocked and found the family is having worest behaviour and
blackmailing my family by saying that Police and court etc.,
In between i approached elders to settle matter, that time elders
requested to give the chance and i accepted as she will change
her attitude as I went to India in OCt,2005 solve the issue.
infront elders she acted that she will listen. But after she
started tourturing me and my family and demanding to give 50
laks indirectly. Finally I wrote a letter to her and her her
parents in Dec,2005 to come back to my home. But no response
Yet. As she is having health problem asking about the details.
They gave wrong info to me.
Before left she will lodge a complaint leave all of my family
I Approched the lawyer, he told to wait until they lodge any
complaint. I dont know what to do as my parents are respectable
officers in Central Govt. Considering their health also what
i have to do.
Please help me in this regard
Thank you, Analyst
No. 8 from Los Angeles, USA
I am in USA right now.
My wife has tortured my elderly widow mother while my mother
came to me for a short visit.
My mother was even treated for mental stress by a doctor over
here. My wife threatened her so much. My wife being an MBA.
They demended that I should leave my mother and my other relatives
Now she went to India and after 10 months she and her parents
have filed Dawry/Torture case against me and my mother. My mother
is going to Police for hearing. She is alone. The girls father
shouts at my widow mom.
They were threatening me already when my wife left me. So, I
filed for divorce in USA and got it.
How do I get peace of mind now. They are threatening my mom
and relatives and we dont say anything. We are suffering.
No. 9 from NJ, USA
My wife filed 498a case, and she is not coming to court as she
cannot prove accusation on me and my family as they are completely
They just want to keep this 498a case pending so they can presurrise
My family is going in court for every date as we have not taken
dowry and we have not anything to her. My wife\'s family also
gave this 498a news in local newspaper to malign my families
I want my families honour back.
No. 10 from HOWRAH
Sir,my marriage was solmnised on 22.02.2004 and my baby was
born on 24.12.2004.On 22.08.2005,I have put-up my hand on her
due to some petty quarrel and she went to her parents home after
lodging a GD to the local police station.When police has not
taken any action on us,she filed a FIR through SP.But police
kept silent.Then she filed a case u/s 498A and 406 of IPC and
I have received a summon from distric court for appearence on
My wife makes hasty decisions without thinking properly and
she is greatly influenced by her mother.In fact she is a puppet
of her mother.
The case relates to the following points which are false:-
1.We started torturing her due to birth of a female child.In
fact it is a matter of great happiness for us to have a female
child as our joint family consists of self,mother,father and
a brother and we were so happy that we have celebrated her birth
and we have a CD for videography.
2.We have misappropriated the gift she brought.But this was
not mention in FIR.
3.We are demanding luxury goods and also this was not mentioned
No. 11 from chandigarh
My marriage took place just 15 days ago.Before marriage me and
my wife was serving in same city, but upon my selection in my
hometown the situation turned out such that I have to go to
my home city (about 400miles away).On the first night of our
marriage itself, my wife had refused to make any physical contact
with me, even she did not allowed me to come nearby her. Moreover
she and my in-laws misbehaved during the marriage ceromney.
Also right from the first day she was continously talking on
her mobile phones especially when I was asleep in nights. On
further investigations we had found that she had affair with
a person in some other city and they have plan to falsely implicate
dowery case. On the 5th day of our marriage me and my wife left
for the city where she serves and on the same day I have to
return home in order to join the new service.But since then
she had not made any contact with me even on phone. Infact her
phone number was always busy/ not being able to be contacted.
Also, it come to our knowledge that my in-laws had married her
forcefully with me, she was infact refusing to marry me. Moreover
on the day we left for her city she had threatened me with dowery
case with demand of an impossibly big amount, together with
falsely proving that I am impotence. I am really worried and
confused with advices from different layers. Kindly suggest
that merely on evidence of phones can we file a divorce case
with adultery and, also before she files a dowery case what
steps should I take immediately?Moreover what implication it
could have on my Govt.job?
No. 12 from kolkata
1.498A filed after we filed Divorce.
2.Wife has mental Problem. Doc Certificate and Necessary document(Before
3.Father and me were in custody for 2 days and 17 days respectively.
4. All have bail now.
5. Only verbal alligation of assult and torture. No supporting
How much the verbal alligation is going to stand the trial?
No. 13 from Jaipur
False FIR was filed against me and my family memebers( mother,
brother, sisters and brother in laws) for 498a and 406.Got bailed
from the court. case is before the court. My in laws are stronger
than my family. I dont have my father. Mother is old and on
bad. My brother is psychiatric patient.
No. 14 from JHARKHAND
They only married for the sake(name) of marriage, the girl(my
wife) had already been involved with anyone whom she could/can
never forget, and the matter is known by all her relatives.
I protested it by saying that she will go there with me and
return with me, but my opinion was rejected by them all. Actually,
they had preplanning to harrass me, before marriage they went
to Police Authorities(Actually one of his relatives is retired
Supdt. of Police). Anyhow marriage held. After that they started
to harrass me that I must opt transfer to their place and must
give salary in her hand.
Within a few days, they came in my Office and complained that
I am torturing their daughter, so my half of the salary be sent
to them and daughter be sent to them. Again they complained
in the Police, I went to them and clearly told my situation,
police then sent them back, but by taking an oath from three
parties in written, I felt safely. Again after some days they
again went to police and complained the same(Those days my wife
was with me), police authorities learned the whole idea and
told me to compromise me, but I reiterated that she will go
with me and will be back with me, they all agreed.
To save my life I thought that If she conceives the matter will
be solved. By the grace of Almighty, it happened and she gave
birth a baby child in October 2002, Her father came and took
her to their residence in December, 2002 saying that she will
be sent back in the month of January, 2003, but in vain. I sent
my relatives to bring her but she didn\'t came. Again they went
to the police authorities that I am not bringing my wife and
baby child to my home, then I went to bring but they told that
it is not possible as they will submit their daughter to the
Police authorities, I came back. Again I came to the police,
they told me to wait and go after few days.
I went there to bring my wife and baby child, but in vain.
Again in May 2003 I went to there to bring my wife but again
but they told scolding me that \'If you go to jail you will
come in line\', I complained the matter to the Supdt. of Police
there and came back and informed the local Supdt. of Police.
I talked over phone that if she wishes to come, I will go there,
but she ignored.
Then on the advice of their ex. legal advisor I filed a case
for\'Restitution of Conjugal Rights\', hearing this they filed
a case of 498a, 3/4 and 4-5 more cases naming many family members
of mine. I got my warrant, went to the Court got the bail of
every member , but the District Judge rejected my bail plea.
I went to the High Court, from their I got bail without going
In the meantime they told me to withdraw my plea on \'Restitution
of Conjugal Rights\' with some \'Gundas\'.
During the case, they again filed \'Maintenance Suit\' and she
is getting 2000/-(Rs. two thousand only) per month from my salary
since March, 2005.
Now the chargesheet framed and case is going on.
Since December 2002, she is staying there, often she comes my
town, even my office(her relative do live here).
I haven\'t seen my baby child since long, I haven\'t tortured
her but getting the result of it.
What should I do now, I don\'t know. But I am in full of fear
that they will murder me by any means and she will take my service
and wealth etc.
Believe me, I have never tortured her nor bitten her, I am puzzled
that why is the law so \'BLIND\' ?
I am helpless as i am not a position to think and do \"bus jiye
ja raha hun\'. Kindly advise me.
P.S. I haven\'t mentioned many facts due to some reasons.
Please hold me.
No. 15 from United Kindonm
I have two brothers and one sister. She framed my complete family
including my mother. My one brother and sister are married.
She lived with me not more then 2 months in total. My married
brother lives in Hyderabad for last 7 years. He met her only
twice. My lawyer fooled us, he just gave money to keep them
silent for five months and now again they are creating problem.
In first investigation police gave us clean chit, but my in-laws
requested re-investigation. Now different police (DSP) is doing
investigation and they paid good money to him. We have applied
for bail but not got yet.
Can law force me to come back to India? Can they charge my married
Reason why she filed is i denied to go US with her because her
sister lives there and her arrogant behaviour.
Please reply soon.
Thanks & Regards
No. 16 from mumbai
this is my friends stroy, he got married 3yrs back , they ere
not in good terms bcoz of same thoughts differences . in total
3 yes time she was here only for 3 month. last she left his
home last yr. , and last week suddenly poice reached to his
palce for 498A arrest. he is behind baz. his family tried hard
for bail , but bail got rejected 3 time, as oppo. party has
political influence in that area.
we are applying bail in high court.
pls help to point out the effective grounds for bails.
and how to get rid of this problem.
Pls revert back asap.
No. 17 from New Mumbai
My wife has made a false complain against me. Actully she is
a already a victim of 498 a which her sister- in-law made against
her. Since before marriage she was suffering from dease called
as pilo nidal synus she has been operated on. Since last 6 months
she is stay with her family and also file a 125 allimony case
against me asking for monthly maintains and operating cost.
Before registering the case her family member asked 10 lakhs
ruppees from me for settlement and if fail to do they will file
a compliant. case is been registed i was in police custody for
2 days and later relase on bail. currently i job less. I was
not aware before marriage that she has case of 498a against
her and the dease she were suffering from.
what should my next step?? Please help me.
No. 18 from New Jersey
This is SM , brother of DM who is a victim of 498a and 334.
he is currently in judicial custody from last 12 days.
I am his younger brother living in US and currently single.The
entire family has been a victim of the 498a and also a arrest
warrant has ben issued on me, my brother, sister who is married
, father and mother.
Father , Mother, and Sister got the bail from Hoshangabad -
MP , but three times bail appeal has been rejected for my brother.All
my family is living in Mumbai and my brothers wife is currently
in Hoshangabad with her parents.This is totally a setup and
a failse allegations against my family .
Would require your kind help on this and guidance to proceed
wit the case.The case is right nowin the appeal mode at High
Court in Jabalpur and the court hearing date has not been given
Plaese call me if any one has any info.This 498a act should
get a end , so that in future innocent people does not become
a victim of the same.
No. 19 from bangalore
I am a victim threat and mental torture. Though my wife and
family did not lodge FIR they continously threatened to do so
and reap the extracts...though at the end settled for a mutual.
It was suppressed at perfect that she was a divorcee and I came
to know this at later point of time. Also came to know about
the previous history of same type. Can we use this website to
submit names and references of such party so that no decent
guy is picked up as her next victim??
No. 20 from New Jersey, USA
I migrated to USA in May 2000 and got married in July 2003.
I was married happily for two years till 2005. It was an arranged
marriage, conducted in Delhi. I got my GC through H1B and wife
got her GC through mine as a dependent. We went back to Delhi,
India to meet family and in laws in June 2005. My wife picked
up a fight after two days in India and called her father for
no reason. Her father arrived and was abusive and assaulted
me, dislocating my shoulder. My wife left with her father. I
was operated upon in Apollo hospital the same day and returned
back to US two days later. I filed a case for damages against
her father and a case for divorce in Aug 2005. After recieving
the notice from court, they filed a false FIR under section
498a against me and my family. At present, my family in India
have been granted bail while my wife is trying to negotiate
with me. They have filed for maintainance specifying exaggerated
amounts for my income and assets and have demanded a large sum
for mutual divorce.
No. 21 from USA
A very dear friend of mine is under this case. he has been arrested.
I know the whole family very well and being a girl became very
close to his wife as well....my friends wife and her family
are trying to get money and harrass my poor friend using this
how do we deal with this ? does the girl get punished for filing
an incorrect case ? is there any support or hope for us ?
No. 22 from UP
1. All these details are not from the victim (husband) hence
not necessarily accurate but in all likelihood true. This colleague
of mine married about one and a half year back. Same cast marriage
2. Harnmonius marriage but no issue despite conception more
than once. Latest being pre-mature child. The husband had spent
lot of time (had taken leave, took good care, spent the money
borrowed/ withdrawn from GPF on medical. Later to help her recover,
even sent her to parents and brought back.
3. The wife had depression, Under treatment also.
4. Committed sucide (hanging)when husband at office but some
others (probably mother and brothers) at home.
5. The husband an engineer and a very decent person, The b-in-laws
of this man i.e. the brothers of decesaed are 4 or five.
6. In-laws lodged FIR alleging dowry to be the cause. He and
two brothers also were put at police station for several days
though arrest not shown. Later prodced in court, remanded. Periodically
produced. Already more than 4 months. the autopsy said no signs
of struggle before death i.e. no bruises etc.
7. Recently, the in-laws came, broke-open the lock of unattended
house (guard only at night) took away things.
8. The apparent motive of in-laws is to loot and exhtort as
much as possible rather than any sentimental reasons. The police
action may be to put pressure though this man clearly said that
he was not interested in the girl\'s belongings at all and was
willing to return everything.
9. Knowing this boy personally, I know he wouldn\'t hurt a fly.
But in a case like this, law is harsh and insensitive for a
Police refused to lodge FIR about the theft/ dacoity.
WHAT CAN BE DONE?
No. 23 from Texas
Divorced in the US. She was served with papers in the US.
She was in the US when the divorce was given. She did not
attend the court proceedings - though she was fully aware of
the proceedings. Child custody/ support was not considered
since the child was in India at that time.
She goes to India on vacation and files 498a. And tries
to stop my second marriage. But then I am already married (legally
of course- after obtaining the divorce decree for my previous
marriage). She falsely claims that the US divorce was obtained
fraud, and that decrees given by US court are not applicable
since she is Indian(even though residing and working in US and
paying taxes in the US)
Now the Indian court has asked her to prove why she thinks the
US divorce is obtained by fraud.
As far as 498a is concerned..its at a stage of calling for witnesses.All
the witnesses names have been forged. We heard through
reliable sources that the witnesses have refused to co-operate
since their names were put without their permission.
She leaves the child with her parents in India and comes back
to US from vacation and files for child support in a US court
. But the US court throws it out- saying that it cannot do anything
when the child is in India.
The interesting thing is that she wants the US jurisdiction
for child support but does not want the US jurisdiciton for
George Washington and BR Ambedkar should be having a hearty
at a heavenly pub. :)
I informed the US State Department about the abduction. They
are advising me on what my possible options are. They are very
We have already incurred expenses of about Rs 10,00,000 to keep
the cops at bay, attorney expenses etc.
The initial part of 498a was difficult. She had filed rape and
assualt false cases against my brothers and the judge at a lower
court refused bail to brothers and sister in law. We had to
to Highcourt to get bail for my brothers and brother-in-law.
No. 24 from Mumbai
She tries to harras me on legal grounds without any rim or reason.
If I don\'t go according to her she tries to put me down saying
she will put behined the bars to my family and me. Tell me what
to do ? I\'m very dippresed.
No. 25 from Sydney, Australia
I am an NRI. I would like to draw your kind attention to the
extreme abuse of anti-dawry Section 498a of IPC with my case.
I am among many of the hundreds of thousands person whose whole
innocent family is tortured just on a false complain if the
wife is unable to adjust with her husband. The sufferers have
to go under harrasment and extreme stress after being held in
police lockup and jail without any ground of proof and these
people are assumed guitly by law. Is this justice to innocent
senior citizen of India? Please go thorogh my what happened
to my innocent parents and brother after 14 months of my separation
with with my wife.
I hope necessary actions are taken to prevent the misuse of
any law. These incidents are now very common and many people
are suffering because of such blind laws.
I am working as IT professional in Australia since
last seven years. I completed my education(MCA) in
India and have been in good job since then. I am
currently in Sydney. My parents are living in
I got arranged marriage in India Oct 2001 and
sponsored my wife, Pooja Saxena, to come over to
Australia (on permanent residency visa) to live with
me. We stayed together for eight months and during
that period I found her to be extremely dishonest,
unloyal, unfaithful, a big liar and greedy for money
and it was obvious her intention to marry was just to
come over to Australia and for the money. She had been
asking me to sponsor her brother to Australia as well
and to bear all his expenses on his education and
living. There was no love, commitment though I tried
my best to compromise with the situation and have
excused her on all occasions assuming it may take time
for her to adjust.
We went to India in Oct 2002 and there she tried a lot
of trouble by creating misunderstanding between
brothers, their wives and started stealing jewellery
and cash from home to take it to her mothers place.
Have been talking vulgar about my mother and brother.
Then she was involved in a horrifying crime by
secretly stealing and then destroying the passports of
my younger brother and his wife. They are living in
USA and where also on holidays there. My brother is
working as software engineer in Chicago. She did it
just two days before their departure and my brothers
whole career was in danger as he could not go to USA.
It is a long process to get the new passport issued
and then get visa processing again. It was a mental
torture for all of us.
It was not know where the passport have gone until
three days when the time came for me and my wife to
come to back to Sydney. Our luggage was packed it was
just five hours before our departure when we were
getting ready and I found a trace of torn passport
photo inside the toilet. It took me no time to
understand by her activities that it was her act. I
had to postpone our return to Sydney. I called my
father-in-law and sent her back(Nov 2002). I have all
the proofs with me that she has damaged the passport.
She has tried to torture everyone in the family by her
cruel and criminal acts. I then came back alone to
Sydney in extreme stress. I regretted a lot for
marrying and loving such a cupid girl. She contacted
me many times after that and asked me to call her back
to Sydney. But her intentions were still clear. I can
not live whole life with her.
I am Australian citizen and by the Australian
laws(validated by Indian law as well) I applied for
divorce at the earliest possible date and had sent her
notice on 16 Dec 2003 in Gujarat where she lives. The
notice was received by her.
Later suddenly on 14th Jan 2004, police and lawyer
from Indore came and arrested my aged parents and my
youngest brother who lives in Faridabad and within few
hours took them to Indore . They have to get me as
well but since I am in Australia, they can\'t arrest
me. My wife had filed a false case of torture in dowry
case under section 498A in Indore(Though her residence
is in Unjha, Gujarat). She put a false allegation that
I and my parents and have beaten her many times and
even have tried to burn her for demand of dowry. I or
my parents or any family member have never ever
touched her with any bad intentions. She has accused
this allegation after 14 moths of separation upon
receipt of divorce notice.
She didn\'t even mentioned the fact, the real reason
for what she was sent back to her fathers place.
Rather she said that she came back herself. Though I
have enough proofs for my claims. When my wife had
spend just about initial month or two in whole of our
married life with my parents. Also she had been
separated and staying away for more than a year.
I was extremely shocked. I have nor my parents or
brother have even touched her anytime with any
intention of beating or burning. We are from
respectable family. My father is retired engineer from
Dept of Atomic Energy. My brothers are well settled
and are earning extremely well.
She did such criminal act, still being decent we sent
her back respectfully with her father when we
separated. If we would have been strict, we could even
have got her arrested for destroying passports. But
still we respected her being a women.
It was a brutal torture to my innocent retired aged
parents and my innocent brother. Without any notice
they had to travel from Faridabad to Indore in police
custody for three days a distance of about 900km in
police vehicle. My mother is heart patient and is
under treatment. She was extremely exhausted, It was a
big risk for her. How can police just come and arrest
and torture anyone just on someone\'s fraudulent and
Later my elder brother had to go from Rajasthan to get
them released on bail on 16th Jan after spending one
night in lockup and three days in police custody.
My parents have a very clean and respectful life but
now have to see such a days.
It is big slap on Indian judiciary that they can just
destroy anyone\'s dignity and can prosecute without
trial. There is no respect for senior citizens who
have served the country for the whole life. At the
same time the legal system have a blind faith on
crook, cunning young married women and her parents. I
am feeling dismay. My aged parents and brother have to
suffer who have nothing to do with my wife. My crook
wife and her greedy parents aim is to get me and
extract a lot of money form me.
As a figure in India, almost 90% of such cases are
dismissed by the court after find the case as
malicious, but there is no punishment of making false
allegations. Almost all the divorce ends up in 498A,
where the reality is that dowry is not practiced and
hardly any women are harassed in educated well earning
family in urban area. And of 90% cases the police get
a good excuse to harass any respectable person and
then to discharge them after harassing. Lawyers and
police are making a big money by trapping innocent
In my case
- my wife filed it after delay of 14 month of
separation when serviced from my side with the notice
- It was filed at Indore which has nothing to do with
me or her, we have never ever lived together there.
Neither is this her place of residence. Just she has a
influence there. While the law states that the case
has to filed at the place of alleged crime.
- Its a clear case of After Thought done with
malicious intention, which is done to defame us to
negotiation table where she and her greedy father can
blackmail and extract our hardly worked earnings of
Even after all this she was successful to get the
complain lodged at Indore and the police from other
state came and arrested my parents and brother without
permision of local police in Faridabad. Also a copy of
FIR is still not been handed over to us.
In the ongoing crises my aged mother in India was
admitted in hospital with severe cardiac pain and
abnormal blood pressure on 22th Jan\'04 while they have
to arrange lawyers and plan the visit to attend the
next date 29th Jan with a notice of just 7 working
days to be attend in Indore 900km far from our place.
My mothers health is so severs that she is going to be
operated today on 23th Jan. Not attending will weaken
our case. Who is going to look after my mothers and
aged father health?
As I am also the accused in my wife\'s complain, I can
go there in India as the police will arrest me. I am
As such there is no fair judicial or law system in
India. Its against the basic right to live with
No. 26 from Singapore
My wife has made a false complaint in women cell that we are
demanding dowry from them. The police has enquired my parents,currently
Iam in singapore,and police asked my parents for me to come
to india.The lawyers say that no need to come at this point.Your
No. 27 from India
Last year I have an engagement I have taken the taken the marriage
certificate on the basis of engagement. There is no such proof
of 7 faras. Marriage certificate I have taken without marriage.
Then there was a dispute. It was broken
This year I came back there was a dispute with first party.
I married with another girl through paper matrimonial and tell
them the truth. First party was not having any problem.They
rae with us and ready to sat that without marriage we have taken
the marriage certificate
I married on 12-12-2005 and on 15-12-2005 my wife slipped from
home and on 18-12-2005 she filed FIR against me ,my mother ,father
sisters under section 498,498a and 494.
The police arrested me and my father from home rest of fellow
I remained in custody on remand for 6 days they were demanding
20 lakhs and all dowry articles.
Then they sent us to jail for 7 days after that I have taken
my and my father bail. Rest they have taken confirmed bails
Now they are demanding my passport .
I have query
As i lived oversesa and work there
My lawyer say u go back we will fight for others. Because this
case may take 2-3 years. My future will be spoiled.They will
declare me police offender rest when every body get free then
u come back.On the basis of that u can be free and they will
try to quash the FIR
No. 28 from Hyderabad
We spent about a week after the wedding. I left for the US and
sent her all the relevant papers for her US travel. My wife
obtains her dependent visa in September, 2005. Differences and
mistrust arose soon afterwards. From then on, there was minimal
communication by email and phone. She has been at her parent\'s
place ever since I left for the US.
My sister and I had to come to India in December 2005 to see
our father who was seriously ill. My in-laws visited the hospital
and wanted to discuss my marital issue. I told them that it
was an inappropriate time/place to discuss the issue and that
I would talk to them when I was in a better state of mind (than
when dealing with a family crisis).
28 December 2005 - despite our father\'s critical condition,
we invited my in-laws to begin some communication. They file
an FIR under IPC 498A before coming to meet us. We (my sister
and I) were taken to the police station under the guise of \"counselling\".
We were held up in police custody without being informed about
the charges. We were not aware of the FIR and arrest until the
29 December 2005 - our father passes away in the hospital. We
were presented before the magistrate in the afternoon. We were
able to obtain a bail but by the time we were able to get out
our father\'s body was already being cremated.
The bail order required me to submit my passport by 12 January
12 January 2006 - I submitted my passport in the magistrate\'s
No. 29 from Gurgaon (Haryana)
Wife suffering from Hepatitus B taken on Rly Reservation to
her parents at kashipur(Uttaranchal) for treatment by their
Homeopath Physician who admitted her to his Nursing home against
will of husband. Their only child, a daughter, then 2.1/2 yrs
old brought back by father to Gurgaon (her home) after staying
with her at Nursing home for more than a week. Wife\'s father,
same day, get FIR written under sec.498a, 3/4 at Kashipur. No
action taken by police for about 1.1/2 years. A few months after
this FIR, wife, who had remained at Kashipur, submits divorce
petition, alleging dowry harassment, that she had been turned
out of the house with child. The date for this alleged act is
the same as when husband took her to Kashipur for treatment.
She further alleges that she was beaten, not treated for her
ailment, was never told she had Hepatitus B, and it was only
on reaching Kashipur that she found this out. As proof of this,
she has submitted an inland letter. The letter is datelined
Gurgaon, (Haryana), but the rubber stamp on the face of this
inland letter where the postal stamp is affixed, is of kashiur,
and is a money order stamp, and not a postal stamp. regarding
the beatings, she has submitted medical report of the same homeopath
which says that she had beating marks all over the body and
was in trauma. The date of her examination and admission for
treatment in nursing home is admitted as one day after she reached
Kashipur. She has also alledged that husband did not contact
her after turning her out of the house.
The Husband has submitted copy of Railway reservation certificate
by which he took her to kashipur, various medical papers, including
bill of Apollo hospital etc., and PCO bills of 55 calls made
to her and 5 sets of Toll Tax receipts for visits to her by
over two years passed and the daughter, now four and a half
yrs old, remained with father and she has not been claimed by
the mother. No action has been taken by the police against the
FIR u/s 498a, 3/4 etc.
Wife submits to police that no action should be taken against
this FIR, and the police closes the case. But she goes to court,
and gets this FIR activitated after a couple of months. In the
meantime, she wins the case for Divorce. She also launches a
case u/s 406.
Husband, because he has just heard of the case u/s 498a etc.,
files appeal in Uttaranchal High Court, Nainital, against divorce
case. In meantime, warrtants of arrest arrive at Gurgaon u/s
406, and also 498a (a few days apart) quite a few times. Husband
gets stay of 406, and also of 498a etc. and learns that wife\'s
lawyer is Chairman of Uttaranchal Advocates Association. Wife\'s
father is a lawyer who is very poor and a Nortary, (wife is
M.Sc. maths). It is not understood as to how she can hire such
an eminent Advocate. Whilest giving the stay u/s 498a etc. High
Court Judge remarks that 498a is being gtrossly misused in many
districts of Uttaranchal (names the districts) cites a case
where High Court has recommended setting up of marriage recociliation
cell, and sets a date for the cell to try and reconcile the
parties. This fails. The High Court is presently on vacation,
and wil open in Feb.
The problem with me is because the documents in the divorce
case are very strongly in favour of husband, seeing the great
resource of wife, the file may not get lost/misplaced and be
not treaceable. What to do for this.
No. 30 from London, UK
I am British citizen based in the UK. The wedding was registered
on 21st December 2000 (for visa purposes!) and social (traditional)
ceremony held on 26th August 2001 (signed religious documents).
My relatives and have been falsely accused under 498A in India.
The case (FIR/Her statement) has been filed under 498A & 34
IPC into the Indian Court whilst she was in India. When allegations
were made to the police I was premanently living in the UK.
The charge Sheet has submitted to the Court stating that the
1st accused has absconded and the police requested to the court
the immedaite issuing of the arrest warrent for my arrest.
I have submiited document evidence showing the serious nature
of false and malicous allegations made under 498A to British
and Indian authorities. as the result, the India police (Kerala)
has instigated into the false 498A and the investigation is
currently in progress.
Upen her to the UK (April 2005), she has filed for a divorce
in the UK court. The divorce doesn\'t mention of dowry extortion
as per 498A.
The divorce submitted to the UK divorce is with reference to
registered wedding (21st December 2000). I have agreed to the
divorce upon legal advice with the divorce. The UK courts has
pronounced decree nisi recently. After 6 weeks and a day the
petitioner (ie my estranged wife) has to put application into
the UK court asking for Decree absolute (ie the divorce can
be made final and the marriage ends).
How I can make the UK divorce valid in India as she was applied
it in the UK? How best to go about doing this? I got a feeling
that my Ex (or her family) might submitted another divorce application
in India (ie for maintence etc) using the social ceremony. What
the procedure that this doesn\'t happen? Can anyone advise,
Email me back.
No. 31 from THANE, MUMBAI
wife left my house by stiling valuables with threats to indulge
in in false case on 29.04.2005, i filled an n.c. immediately,exchange
of many legal noticces, no word of doweryor harassment in her
reply, on 26.03.2005 gave me a threat again on phone, i informed
the police she might come and get herself hert to indulge me
in false case. on 01.04.2005 she came made a drama in front
of my house, filed a complaint u/s. 4978 (A) ,223,236,406 &
506 r/w 34. Fir supported by not a single document or evidence,
police report is not supported by any evidence or any findings
out of investigation. case is running in Tahne Court, she never
attended on any date. now filled case u/s. 125 at FAmily Court,
No. 32 from india,AndhraPradesh.,Nellore
I had cheated by my wife\'s parents that they are not informed
me about their duather\'s illegal sex affaires with others,after
marrage in first week I found that matter.so i want to divorce
her by giveng talaq.but they are blackmailing me by 498a demanding
lakhs of mony .Iam govt employ.soplease help me.
No. 33 from Australia
I got married in February 1998 with my maternal uncle\'s daughter.
I am from Andhra and she is from Maharashtra. Immediately after
my marriage I went to Malaysia because of my job. She joined
my after few months. We got a child and now he is around 5 yrs
old. When she was with me in Malaysia she always used to take
lot of money and used to send to her parents without my knowledge.
My uncle had taken a loan of around 3 lakhs from me in various
occasions when she was with me. But I have only few receipts
of around 1.5lakh as it happened few years back.
My wife always used to suspect me and made several insults in
front of my colleagues and friends. Whenever I come to India
for few days also she always used to insist to take either separate
house or stay outside for staying rather than at my home. She
used to insult my parents and my sisters when they met me or
I was with them. One time when I came to India and I forcibly
brought her my home to stay for few days, her parents came to
my house and created lot of fuss, shouted at my parents & me
and insulted in front of my relatives & friends. I couldn\'t
bear this and tried to commit suicide. Somehow I got survived
and I came to home. As soon I reached home they started shouting
again and took her daughter along with them. This incident happened
in October 2003. I tried to mediate with them through some elders
of my community but they refused to send their daughter and
they insulted the elders whom we sent to them.
I fed up all this and then applied for divorce on mentally cruelty
grounds in Oct 2003 itself and left India. As their place is
near to Mumbai (not Mumbai, a small town 100 km away from Mumbai)
they applied for change of court in Supreme Court. In the mean
they filed a petition for maintenance at their place, but I
didn\'t challenge it. The Supreme Court gave the order to change
case to Thane, Maharashtra family court. This happened in early
2004. Since the case came to Thane court nothing progressed.
Since I applied for divorce I had been trying through mediators
to settle the issue and get the divorce mutually. But they never
cooperated and everything went vain of all my efforts.
In Nov 2004, my sister (unmarried) passed away because of some
health problem. By seeing this my mother went to coma. I then
came to India immediately and admitted her in hospital on the
same night without attending my sisterís funeral. My mother
went on coma for 3 days. I was in hospital for 14 days with
my mother. While in the hospital none from their side came (my
uncle is my motherís own brother and they got to know the news
on the same day it happened). I even tried one time for negotiation
with the through mediators while I was in hospital. But again
I was failed. Immediately after my mother discharged (the next
day it self), I left India.
In the early 2005 I have got Australian Permanent Resident and
I moved to Australia. Since then I kept on sending the maintenance
allowance to her from Australia. But they refused to take. In
the mean I applied for divorce from Australia itself and I have
got divorce from Australian Court in November 2005. By seeing
my divorce petition my wife file a false case, 498A against
me and my parents in Nov 2005. The Maharashtra Police came in
the mid of the night and arrested my father. They tried to arrest
my mother but seeing her health condition (she is quite old
and can\'t even walk properly). My father spent one week in
the police station. In the one-week the Police again to my place
(from Maharashtra to Andhra) brought my father to my home one
more time for taking their things from my home(They took lots
of things even I bought for my home also like TV, fridge, Washing
Machine, etc.,). The Police even tried to took the money from
my NRI account and locker (my wife knows well about my savings
in my NRI account and locker). But the bank Manager refused
to handover to Police as they didnít have court orders. I engaged
one lawyer who resides in Mumbai (took lot of money but did
nothing much, as we don\'t know any body in Mumbai/Maharashtra).
After a week my father came out on bail. I engaged one more
local lawyer again there it self as my lawyer couldnít show
much interest again (I feel he might have joined with them).
Since then my father attended one time for hearing. We again
started negotiating with them again. This time they sent a mediator
to us and told a huge amount for mutual agreement. I spent most
of my savings for my family, their family and to Lawyers. Now
the amount they asked which I simply canít give as it is impossible
Yester day I heard from my lawyer that they filed a petition
in Maharashtra court to Passport Office, Hyderabad to cancel
my Passport, so that I can come to India. Now I want to seek
help/guide from you all in this matter. I have few queries in
1. Is it legal to file a 498A case against my parents and me
when the case is running/pending in Thane, Maharashtra Court?
2. Is it possible to cancel my passport from Passport authorities,
Hyderabad for this kind of cases as I neither a Terrorist nor
cheated to any.
3. Is it possible that any international Police arrest me if
I travel from Australia to any country at any international
or Australian Airport? Why I am asking this is I have just come
to Malaysia two days back on my job for 1 week trip.
4. Is there any possibility there that I can challenge this
in any Indian Court (either in local Maharashtra or Thane Court
or Supreme Court)? Can anyone give good lawyer details regarding
5. Can anyone email me that they knew some people in Passport
As I just want to know that what the authorities can do?
6. I heard somewhere that if the marriage happened over 7 yrs
means, no one can file a 498A case (As I married more than 7
yrs)? Is it correct?
Ever since I married and even I got the divorce from Australian
Court also I am still mentally getting tortured. So my dear
friends pls help me in this regard as I am very frustrated now.
I need your advice, suggestions. I canít trust anyone in India
except you all as you are like me.
Thanks you all for considering this matter.
No. 34 from hyderabad
moved from another city with my wife to stay with my parents
after father got operated for heart ailment. she stayed with
me and my parents for 11 days and then went to her home in the
same town(hyderabad). and when i did not attend my BIL\'s Engement
ceremony she fought with me and did not return to home. and
after some 45 dyas she consumed some 20 pills of avil. and then
filed a case which eventually became 498a, but since i had some
copies of her threatns of suicide nad other SMS copies sent
as threatns to me got the Bail after surrnedring in the court.
No. 35 from Coimbatore
I am basically a qualified CA & ICWA and was in a decent job.V
both r divorcees and marriage took place in a very very simple
manner and I did not make any demand and she has come with two
suitcase dresses and her personnal belongings.she already received
a life time alimony of Rs. 150000 from her first husband.She
has as soon as her arrival felt she could not fit in our deciplined
culture.I have got only one brother who is BE graduate working
for Indian Airlines and my father who is an ACMA is no more
and passed away during 1996.Due to incompatibility she left
out house on 24.02.2004 and took all her belongings on 06.06.2004.
I gave a lawyer notice for divorce for which she never replied.She
created some aweful scene before our house and I went for divorce
again.After seeing the summon from the court, she came to our
house on 05.09.2004 and 06.09.2004 and took some photographs
and published in the media in the name of \"Hunger Strike\"
to restore her family life whereas she never any petition in
the Family court for Restition of Conjugal Rights for which
she was not interested also.On the same day ie 06.06.04 she
gave a complaint in the POlice Station saying that I drove her
out for Rs.50000 demand of dowry and FIR was made on 09.09.2004.She
had given so many allegations in her complaint but Police has
registered only one section ie 498A of IPC since it is the constituional
right of the ladies to give such a complaint.I was behind the
bars for six days and with that I lost my job also.Subsequently
I filed a case for Defamation on that family for a plot of publishing
some defamatory news aganist me before going for the Police
case or court. The court has ordered to register the FIR aganist
all of them and now it will be done with in a day or two.The
498A case also will be over within a monthe or two since most
the Prosecution Witness are examined and cross also over. The
independant third party eye witness gave deposition aganist
the girl only. Now Divorce case also pending and she has filed
a petition for Interim Alimony and now for that adjournments
are going on.
No. 36 from Delhi
Dear All, Please note though i got a registered marriage done
in sept 2002 at Delhi courts for the purpose of having a joint
name in a property loan so that she can avail of the ITR benifits
applicable. But it was decided between the families that both
of us will have a social marriage after some time and we will
stay together thereafter. However things did not materialise
and we never got married socially and never stayed together
as husband n wife ever. Now when it was discussed that we better
get this marriage clear through mutual divorce first they agreed
but later as the property has appreciated in the meantime it
seems they are getting greedy and asking for unreasonable interest
and even may be eying my property.
Keeping in view the developments i fear that to demand share
in property they may try all these cheap tricks to harress and
get share in property and try and lodge false complain now U/S
We have never stayed together so far but the house is in joint
name and i want to get her name removed from the property. Please
advise is there any preemtive way i can adopt before they try
any stupid act. Is there a way one can get a anticipatory bail
in such a case to avoid any stupid act they may try and do.
Please advise with any contact nos. Thanking you/ Regards
No. 37 from mohali ,punjab
my wife threatens me that she will file a case against me nd
we tried to settle things either way(divorce or settlement)
by both families sitting together but this lead to heated arguements
nd my wifes brother threatend to kill me .my parents got really
scared by this.
my wife wants to go abroad but i dont as i m the only son ,my
dad is senior class one gazzated officer ,i cant leave my prnts
alone in india.
I have already given a letter in local women cell stating the
facts that i anticipate a false case against me by my wife
what else can i do to safeguard myself nd my prnts who r really
No. 38 from London
I came to UK on a husband visa as my wife is a British citizen.Now,
one day I abused (verbally) her over the phone under thre influence
of liquor. The things I said were recorded in her cell-phone
(voice mail). Now, next day she went to police and complained
of mental harrassment. Police officer issued me a warning and
they advised my wife to leave me for some days and stay somewhere
else. Its been 20 days we are staying separately. But now, she
doesn\'t want to come back and she is asking for 10lakh rupees
from my brother, who is settled in US. Also, she has filed for
judicial separation in court. But now, her father is threatening
with the dowry harrassment case if we don\'t pay up the money.
I am really confused and don\'t know what to do as I am here
in UK and also I am very concerned for the safety of my family-members
back home in India. Please advise me what to do???
Thanks in advance.
No. 39 from kurukshetra - haryana
all false case. police and judiciary machinary also helping
the girl. her uncle is ADA in Karnal Court, where the case is
filed. the FIR has been changed four times. magisterate has
not done anything but giving dates after dates, thereby delaying
the verdict. we hav filed for revision, but have no hope, only
because of her ADA uncle. please suggest
No. 40 from London
My wife is british citizen. Can she file a 498a against me???I
am an Indian citizen.
No. 41 from CANADA
1. A court marriage was done (The marriage was a love marriage).
No ceremony was carried out just a court marriage in the local
court in Dehradun.
2. I flew back to Canada 6 days later.
3. I put in an application for her immigration under the spousal
family class sponsorship scheme. Subsequently, I was in touch
through phone, mail and email etc.
4. Her immigration was granted. All this time prior to and post
marriage she stayed in Dehradun with her parents.
5. I flew back to India in Dec 2002 for the wedding with the
6. We both flew to Toronto on Dec 16 2002. She became a Permanent
Resident of Canada on Dec16 2002.
7. She flew back to India in March 2003, as she wanted to visit
her family. Stayed there for approx three months.
8. She arrived back in Canada June 2003. I got her enrolled
in a Human resource Management program at Seneca college full
time starting Sep 2003.The course finished in APRIL 2004. Right
about this time there were issues between us with regard to
settling in Canada and the weather etc, wherein she did not
want to stay so far way from her parents.
9. Her sister came to visit in April 2004 and she went back
to India in May 2004 with her sister.
10. At this time her father was diagnosed with tongue cancer.
11. I went to India for 4 weeks in August 2004, stayed in Bombay
for her fatherís surgery.
12. She came back to Canada in Dec 2004.
13. Right after this trip she started insisting that I move
back to India and in the vicinity of Dehradun and would not
reason otherwise, primarily due to her Fathers health. This
was supplemented with the same from her parents. It seemed only
logical to me that having a quit one career already that we
spend some time to stabilize our lives in this country first
and then move forward.
14. After all else failed, on her insistence to live separately
for a while, I moved out to another location in Dec 2004 and
she started living alone in an attempt to give us both some
time to think through the situation. I used to see her for financial
responsibilities only (since she was not earning); I was now
supporting the apartment where she was living and also my own
set up. I had already tried all possible means to reason and
her reason was clear, that she did not want to live with me
15. She was not earning any money throughout this while and
I was supporting all her needs. I paid for all her trips to
India and her expenses too.
16. She went back to India in March 2005 to visit her family
again. (I paid for this ticket as well)
17. She stayed in India for approx 2 1/2 months and came back
in late May 2005.
18. She took up a job on commission basis (as a HR consultant)
in June 2005 but did not earn any money, for the next few weeks.
19. June 2005 my parents came to visit us, and she met them
only for very short periods. She continued to live in my old
appartment whereas my parents stayed mostly with my uncle and
for a few days with me.
20. It had now been an year out of which she had spent 6 months
in India and we were not living together even in Canada for
the subsequent 6 months.
21. Around the end of July she then made it very clear to me
that she could not live with me at any cost and wanted to end
22. I initiated a divorce proceeding in Canada on Aug 06 2005
after discussing the issue with her.
23. She was served a court notice/order for the same on Aug
12 2005 by a third party and she by that time had spoken to
her parents and made it clear to them as well that she did not
want to live with me at all.
24. She packed everything she had in Toronto and went back to
India on Aug 14 2005. She took with her all valuables, jewelry
etc that she had received during the marriage from my parents
and insisted on a one-way ticket, which once again I bought
25. She did not respond to any further court proceedings or
to the notice served; her reply was that she did not care anymore
and did not want to live with me and from her standpoint the
relationship was over long ago.
26. An order was issued by the court on Sep 21 2005.
27. Since no action was forwarded in the court the court gave
a final verdict on Oct 22 2005 for a Divorce.
28. Upon finding this out from the court I spoke to her father
and, he assured me on the phone that whatever I feel is right
for both the families, I should do, and they will support all
decisions and if the courts etc can be avoided in India it will
be better for both the families.
29. I mailed out a final Divorce certificate to her Father on
Dec 12 2005.
30. On Dec14 I received a threat call from one of her uncles,
saying that they have the capability to get me kidnapped or
31. She filed a FIR (First Information Report) complaint in
a dowry case against me, and my parents on Dec 29 2005 implicating
us for harassment and other fraudulent charges.
32. My parents were arrested and put in jail on Dec 30 2005.
33. This whole sequence was planned around the New Year, as
a result all courts were closed and it was impossible to get
34. After about 5 days of battling the police and her family
my mother finally got bail.
35. Somehow the bail application for my father went missing
from the file and we were only able to get the bail two days
36. I received a second threat call form the same person, now
warning me that this was my second and final warning and if
my parents can be arrested without even being involved , I can
be harmed easily too.
No. 42 from Jakarta,Indonesia
I am working in Jakarta and I would like you to help me in a
false dowry case(498A)against me and my family by my wife.I
want a speedy divorce from my wife also. Herewith I am writing
few details about my case....
I was married on 7th April\'04 in Meerut but soon after my marriage
I got serious diffrences with my wife when I came to know about
her affair with one guy. I got first notice from my wife on
10th November\'04 falsely alleging my parents that they had
beaten her infront of me at my residence in Aligarh and she
is undergoing treatment at her residence in Agra.
I sent her notice countering her false allegations and refused
to call her back because of her voilent, arrogent attitude and
cheating nature and came back to Jakarta on 15th November,2004.
On 30th November she lodged complaint against my family accusing
us about dowry demands and harrasment.and police arrested my
parents on 24th December,2004. Now she has filed case in Agra
family court saying we tried to even kill her for dowry. Can
I file for mental harrasement case bcoz she was very well taken
care by me during her
stay in Jakarta(14 June- 19 September) I spent lot of money
I sent to her ICICI,Meerut account USD$1000/- in June\'04 from
Jakarta and hosted my wedding reception in a 5-star hotel in
Jakarta.My family has tried to persuade her family through many
people for mutual divorce but they are asking huge amout of
Rs 50 Lakhs. So I am left with one sided divorce option and
I don\'t want to meet any of her family\'s crazy demands.
Please let me know if you could help me out.
No. 43 from faridabad (India)
Married on 30-09-1998. Filed Divorce U/S 13 HMA Dated 16-09-2003
under cruelty and desertion. Case is pending for next hearing
on 22-02-2006. Received summon from HISAR CAW on 9-01-2006 to
be appear on 11-01-2006. After going there came to know that
my wife has complained against me u/S 498A. They called me again
today 27-01-2006 as my wife was not present on 11-01-2006 and
their parents were present. Today i did not went there for reconcillation.
Tell me what next to be done.
No. 44 from Lucknow(Currently London)
I am working as a Software Engineer in a reputed firm in Banglore.
Currently I am working in London on deputation and my wife and
kid are also along with me. My father is an illetrate personn
and working as peon in BSNL Lucknow. My mother is also a Central
govt employee and working in Census lucknow. I got married on
1-Dec-2001. Since day 1 of my marraige my Inlaws started ignoring
me and my parents.My father Inlaw said that he can not give
repect to my father as my father is a class 4 employee. My wife
too started sharing every trivial and non trivial things with
his family. I was ignoring the things thinking one day every
thing will become all right. But when things started becoming
worse and I opposed then one day my Inlaws along with their
2 other relatives (one of them is in police and other ia an
advocate) came to our house and abused my parents and tried
to manhandle them and gave us the threat of the dowry. They
shouted on us on the road and created a big drama in front of
our house. MY wife didn\'t speak even a single word against
them. Whenever I used to speak with her on this issue, she remains
mum and says all this is happening because of my parents and
me. I stopped speaking to my Inlaws and asked them not to interfere
in my life. But they said that no body can stop them from speaking
to their daughter and again gave the threat of dowry. Even after
that many times they threatened my parents. Then my parents
lodged 2 FIRs against my Inlaws and their relatives, but no
action was taken against them. After some time I was supposed
to come to London but my wife refused to come along with me.
Then a filed a case against her and told her about the case.
On hearing that she came along with me. After that every thing
was alright and I had with drawn the case against her. But one
day I came to know from my office that my Inlaws have send a
legal notice to my office saying that I am torturing my wife
for dowry and I am not allowing her to contact with them . Also
they put the allegation that probably I have murdered my wife
and my son and that the Comapany should provide all the details
like when I went to London, whether my family also came along
with me etc. They also alleged in the notice that I am a person
of criminal nature. They were fully aware that I am in London
and they were having all my contact details like email Id, phone
numbers etc but they never tried to contact me and instead sent
a legal notice. They also demanded in the notice that if Company
refuses to give my details then they will file a criminal case
against the Company too. This whole exercise was done purposly
to defame me. Now I am so much depressed and humiliated that
I am not able to go to my office also, as every one is asking
me about that and every one looks at me as I am the culprit.
Please suggest me what shall I do . Also
(1) Can a file a complaint against my Inlwas in the NHRC ? Will
they entertain my complaint? Will they consider it as a voilation
of my and my family\'s human rights?
(2)How can I save my parenst as both are Central Govt Employee
(3)Can I file a demation case against my Inlaws and their relatives,as
an FIRwas already lodged against them. Also I am unable to consantrate
on my work due to this. Can this also be one reason to file
the defamation case.
(4)Since my father Inlaw and Mother Inlaw both are UP Govt employee,
can I take any action against them. My fatherin law is in PWD
and mother Inlaw is in education department of UP Government.
(5)Can I write a letter about this to State NHRC, SP Police(Lucknow),
Indian Embassy London, Home Minister UP, PWD Minster UP, Education
Minister UP? Will this help me ?
Request you to please guide me as my Parents are very much worried
and tensed and I am unable to understand what to do as my Wife
is silent on the whole issue and by remaining mum she is also
with them .
thanks & regards
No. 45 from Canada
I am in Canada, as I work here. I got married in India, on 20th
Dec 2005, I came back to Canada on Jan 2005. My wife came here
in May 2005. A month later she started threatening me of going
back to India, and called her parents and put false dowry allegations
on me. When I asked her, she said she didnot say that. But later
on, she took to very very bad state, On 12th of July,2005 she
asked me for money, for divorce I asked her how much, she said
she has to ask her parents, and said they r expecting me to
clear up their debts.
On 17th July she called police when i was in deep sleep, adn
went off with them and then bac to India. She filed a 498A case
against me, and didnot even inform me for 6 months, the case
in Court now there has already 4-5 hearing and I am not even
aware of any.
On 25th Dec 2005, my mother died, she took advantage of that,
and got an arrest warrnat issued against me in India. My next
court hearing is on 20th March I am cluesless on what to do..
Pls help me..
No. 46 from Mumbai
My wife is insisting on getting seperate out from my parents(have
email as prof for the same)My parents are in late 70\'s and
morever my Daddy is Heart patient she is at her parents from
last 3 months.i fear she will file flase case of 498A.What precautionery
measure do i take.
No. 47 from San Francisco, USA
I have been member of this group for last 6 months.
I am victim of child marriage. During 15 yrs of marriage I hardly
stayed with her, as I was busy out for studies. Because of incompatibility/dispute,
I wanted not to continue with her. This made my in-laws file
for false 498A against brothers, my parents and me. I was arrested
for a day and had to sign a bond of compromise to stay with
her. Then we stayed 5 months together. I was staying with her
because she blackmailed me after the threat of 498A. She used
to threat me that she will commit suicide everyday. Now I am
abroad for last 3 months and she is in India.
She want me to come back and stay with her and continue torturing
me and do whatever she wants by threatening me for 498A again
There are at least 1000 people against my family and me. They
have outcast my family from the trade community over there.
She has publicly alleged my brothers of many things and wants
to send everyone behind the bar.
Many people are helping in that false 498A effort and they have
made it a political issue So couple of local MLA/Ex-MLA/MP are
also involved. Nobody even bother to know what allegation she
In latest development, they said they will call me back and
force me to stay with her.
I want to know how they can get me deport back to India?
Thanks in advance,
No. 48 from delhi
false case was registered u/S 498-A, after mutual divorce first
motion. in which she clearly declare on oath that she will not
file any case in any court. All settlement has been made all
dowry articles istridhan given all alimoney past present future
given. She and her father demanded more money for second motion.
I declined then she took this step and falsly regirsted the
case of 498-A after first motion. Police sent cancellation report
to Magistrate. She again protested and Magistrate order for
re-investigation. She is blackmailing me. there are other highlighted
matter of mine in delhi high court.
No. 49 from hyderabad
Case presently in court. Examination of the first three witness
to be on 14/2/06. they are father, mother and her self. Other
witnesses in the case are her own relatives but they have tried
to negotiate in vain. They willing to dispose the facts that
we have not taken any dowry and there was no harrasment. It
has been more than two years that we have stayed together, how
can there be harrasment?
I have finished my M.D in Internal Medicine and have been practicing
in Hyderabad. I was arrested by the police in the hospital,
and the girls side have bribed the SI.
There was no formal enquiry into the case. Being a doctor i
was humiliated by the way they arrested me and sent me to remand
for 2 days. I am confident of the case. These people need some
punishment so that it is not repeated by others. I want to sue
this people. can u help me.
No. 50 from baltimore
Hi. First of all, thanks for providing this resource for people
like me. I am a graduate student in the US on the F-1 visa.
I got married two years back due to pressure from my family.
I tried to cope but my wife and we are not compatible and now
I realize I will be never happy with her. Even though I have
been married for 2 years I have also lived with my wife for
only two months during the time in which I was in India. I did
not have any physical relationship with my wife in past two
years. I do not even have the marriage registered. Few weeks
back, when I was in India, I told my wife\'s father that I am
not happy in this marriage and I want to separate. At that time
he was fine but now he has warned me that my whole family will
have to bear the consequences if I thought about the divorce.
I am very afraid and I am not sure what is the way forward.
Only thing I know is that I do not want to stay in this marriage.
I want to know, what are the legal steps I should take so that
my family does not have to suffer under the false charges. Please
recommend any lawyer in baltimore area or in Jodhpur/Jaipur
where my family lives.
Thanks so much. Looking forward to hearing from you.
No. 51 from bangalore
she wanted to go for seperately, but i didn\'t so she stayed
with her mother and pressured me one fine stage i agreed but
asked for agreement for confidence i rejected that so she removed
mangalsutra and went, so i filed a divorce case, she went to
the local station to file a complaint further details not known.
No. 52 from india
i am living with my wife, since last 8 months, but when any
member of my family (brother, mother) visit my place, my wife
has tried to stab my brother with knife in presence of my mother,
she is very cruel keeps my salary debit card with herself and
i do not have any money even to traval to my office, i have
to walk, almost everyday, my wife thretens me of filing a case
against me in police as she suspects that i had spoken to my
family members over phone.
No. 53 from US
My wife filed false cases of 498a & 406 against me and my family.
Now we are at the stage of getting demands from wife for mutual
No. 54 from Gurgaon
The case is in Uttaranchal High Court. Since all that she has
alleged is proveably false, I am hopeful to get favourable verdicts.
But it appears the girls family is EXTREMELY powerful in Uttaranchal.
I am therefore looking into filing a case under 23A HMA and
would like to know from where I can get some case histories
under this section. Thanks. Jan
No. 55 from california
My friend is a US citizen(of Indian origin). He lives in the
US. He made a trip to India and married a woman in Kerala in
July after a short aquaintance. He came back to the US. He realized
that the marriage was done hastily and would not work out so
he withdrew her US visa application and told her he would like
to divorce amicably. He plans to file for a divorce in the US
since he resides in the US.
She is living at his mother\'s residence. Since he told her
of his intentions she has threatened to harm herself and others,
but has not done so yet. She is also accusing him of untrue,
scandulous behavior when he was in India to marry her. She has
been telling lies about all of his family as well.
Given that she does not want the inevitable divorce, we feel
she may try to ask for a large sum of money or file an unjust
complaint against him or his family. Given that he lives in
India, it is not clear where he would stand if she files any
case against him or how he would protect himself.
We are just trying to get any information to help him since
we are not familiar with what may happen from here.
No. 56 from Hyderabad/mumbai
Got married in april 2001. She is mentally not sound (though
i cant prove it)hates my parents and has desserted me 3 times.
We lived together for a very limited period. Last time she left
my house was in 2003 june. Filed a 498a case againest my faimly
in oct 05 and a patch up in the police station was done. she
came to live with my parents and started thretening them. When
we went back to the mediators of the patch up for justice the
expressed the inability and now she is not willing to quit my
parents house and not willing to give divorce. As the case was
not closed i filed for anticipatory bail for all the family
members and currently absconding. how do i go about now? can
i file a divorce case? she being putup in my parents house can
i file a divorce case? please help.
No. 57 from Jalandhar
i m living with my parents in rented house in jalandhar.i was
married in feb 2000 and we have a son but from the early stages
of marriage till date my wife is not ready to accept my house
and parents and is total out of control.we have never demanded
or expected even a single rupee coin from my inlaws.one day
my wife without telling any one ran away to her parents house
and stayed there for eight months.now my inlaws came with 50persons
and insulted me and said we are going to frame a case anainst
you peole and will put you in jail. i m very much disturbed.
i want divorce from my wife kindly help me
No. 58 from USA
I arranged my brother\'s marriage thru shaadi.com with a Indian
origin british citizen(by birth).
Their marriage has broken down and girl wants me to pay 10 lakh
rs for marriage expenses and I know she did not spend so much
it was a dowry less marriage.
She has filed for judicial separation in UK but threatening
me to pay 10 lakh as my brother cannot afford it.
so she wants quick divorce in UK marriage was held in bombay
and wants to file 498 a in India.
I am still trying to talk to her and she is talking to me,I
have asked her couple of time to give detail of 10 lakh expenses
but she is not forthcoming.
I have recorded all the conversation between her and me.But
I am worried as how to avoid 498 a and settle everything peacefully.
She might file 498 a in bombay as her parents live there and
we are from UP.
What are my options :
1.I live in USA..where should I apply for anticipatory bail
for myself and my mother who lives in UP.I have two more brothers
who live in India.
2.Any good lawyer who can hel me out to file Anticipatroy bail(ab).What
documents are required for bail.
3.After AB,do I have to go to India to appear in court or my
lawyer can handle everything.
4.I want to file a blakmailing charge against her in UK if she
files 498A in India as I have emails where she has threatened
5.I think she will not file for 498 a until her divorce is finalized
in UK which takes 2-3 months.
6.I never asked for any dowry and spend my money for all expenses
and not took even single peeny from them.But she wants 10 lakh
Please let me know my options.
No. 59 from Kolkata
Filed a false 498a, 406 IPC against me with help of her father
at PS ,DumDum.Now she is interested to sattlement.But we are
very much rigid for true justice.In her FIR she register false
allegation which is very much hard to stand.I also take advice
from a good Bar At Law.He is my Lawyer in that case.I need you
help & Kind Advice.
No. 60 from Mumbai, mahashtra
There intention to harrase us is not fulfilled as we take shown
that we took the case very lightly. Now they realised that the
case will take much longer, as till date all the acused has
not been summoned yet. They do not having thet much finacial
position to carry on the case. Hence they coming foward for
settlement. We are also ready for settlement, but afraid that
after getting money and divorce the case may go on. They have
filed the case as a private case, and my lawyer telling me that
private case is compoundable, but still i cant belive. Her lawyer
is ****erd and known for harssing and extorting monney from
other party. Please tell me
1)what procedure should be followed so that the case will be
closed permantly and they shuold be unable to file any further
case agaimst us.
2) Whether the case is simply closed after divorce?
3)Shall we hand over the settlement amount just at the the time
of the application for withdrawl of case or shall wait for courts
decree regarding clousure of case?
No. 61 from US
My name is AC.I am presently staying in US.My brother/mother
have been taken into judicial custody for dowry harresement
.I have so much details.I need to know what options i have to
get them out.This is basically a vengence between my brother
and his wife and she has decided to torture the whole family.The
marrige is not working out between them.Any advise by you will
be very greatfull.
No. 62 from Patna
well we as in my parents,myself & my sister( who is not in India)
had recieved the letter from a womens organisation from patna
which my father did not accept....but i got to know she had
threathen to call us all to patna...from her husband ie my brother..i
need to know what do to in such a case my parents r senior citizens
& my brothers wife had left home in the 1st week of september
with her children & her brother came & took her to patna...i
also got to know this as i teach in the same school my niece
used to study.. my parents were not told at all... My brother
& his family have been staying separate fo some years thats
since they have returned from paris . well i really dont know
what to say ..as i dont even know abt the letter sent from the
womens organisation but since she has been threatheing my brother
do teach us a lesson this is all i can say..pls help & guide
as i dont know what to do & cant even make my parents understand
the situation i can answer the questions u send me or can even
call i havent given u my telephone no as i dont want to let
my parents know as they think since she was not staying with
us & they havent done anything they have nothing to fear & god
iis there for them????
No. 63 from bangalore
Wife\'s family wants to cut off the husband\'s relatives.Wife
is extremely arrogant and threatens police action if her every
demand is not met with.Doesn\'t want inlaws to visit them even
for two days.Husband and inlaws are respectable and well to
do families.Common refrain-If you die, I will live happily with
all your money.Now the husband is not willing to live with her
alone -doesn\'t trust her.He wants to return all the jewellery
they had given and keep only what he and his family had given-more
than 35 sov of gold.How to do it in aproper way?
No. 64 from a
well i did write earlier..the thing is i know my brother has
got a phone call & the people from the womens org did speak
to him,,, from what i have been told its abt mental &physical
harasment my parents r senior citizens & we didnt even know
when she left home with the kids.. my bro did not tell us abt
it untill i got to know from the school that he had applied
for his daughters school leaving certificate( i teach in the
same school as his daughter used to study).. when she missed
school from the 5th of sept he told me she had jaundice as we
had started the unit test on the 6th the day after the trs day
celebartion.. pls advice me how to go abt if she does do something
to us... my parents r sr citizens & i dont want them to be harressed
in any way at their age... do advice me & ifu need any answers
do ask as i really dont know how to do this or go abt with all
this. I know u will say pls wait till something happens but
pls help me with some advice
No. 65 from agra
I\'m a software engg. (B.E., MBA) I got married on 1/4/2000
and was working in Calcutta. After 3 mths of my marriage we
shifted to Hyderabad. (My parents are in Agra & my wife\'s as
well.) My wife became pregnant in Oct\'2001. Since she was weak,
she needed lot of atention and care, so on the Doctor\'s advice
she was supposed to stay in Agra with my parents.
I went to Agra in Nov\'2001 to leave her with my parents. I
visited again in Jan\'2002 to see her for a few days.
In March\'2002 I went to US on an Official assignment. Came
back on 15/4/2002 to find that my father in law had expired
due to illness (Jaundice-Hepatitis type B) on 11/4/2002 (He
used to drink a lot).
My wife wanted me to come down to Agra, so that she could be
closeby to assuage her mother\'s grief. It was decided that
I may start some business in Agra itself. I resigned in May2002
and came to Agra. My daughter was born on 15/6/2002.
Thereafter I took my wife to meet her mother and brother several
times on different festival occassions. Couldn\'t leave her
there, since my daughter was pre-delivered and so her heart
pulse was not proper. The Dr. advised to keep her indoors and
under regular & proper care and medical attention or otherwise
she would have to be kept in the Hospital for the same reason
for sometime. We somehow managed to take care of her at home
and she became fine within 2 mths.
Now my wife wanted to go to her mother\'s place for somedays,
as she couldn\'t be near them during her father\'s death. The
Dr. advised to keep her away from him because of (Jaundice-Hepatitis
type B)which is said to be infectious. She went to her mother\'s
place on 3/9/2002 with her brother.
Therafter, she never came back. I went to pick her several times.
All she wanted me was to pay 10 lakh for settling her brother
(elder), who was otherwise jobless. Now this was just blackmailing.
My MIL started going to my relatives and saying that we are
asking dowry and we have thrown her out of our house. Now whenever
I went to pick my wife, she would just shout and growl on me,
that why didn\'t you take me to US with you. When I saw this
atitude of my wife, I also stopped going ther. There was a limit,
how much I could tolerate.
Now my MIL went ahead to my relatives place and told them that
they would file 498a, if we don\'t agree to what she wants.
(She wanted me to file for divorce, so that she could extract
money from me) But we didn\'t agree for the same. So my wife
filed 498A in March \'04.
I\'ll try to put further events crisply:
1) Mar\'2004-- My wife filed for 498A
2) Mar\'2004-- We procured arrest stay from High Court
3) May\'2004-- I filed for Restitution of Conjugal Rights
(She didn\'t appear in Court for a long time. She kept on doing
job from Mar\'2003 to Nov\' 2004. She quit the job in Dec\'2004)
3a)May\'2004-- She applied to the HC for vacating the stay.
4) Jan\'2005-- Her plea in HC court got rejected.
4a)Jan\'2005-- She applied for maint. u/s 24, 26
4c) Feb\'2005-- She applied for maint. u/s 125
5) Mar\'2005-- She lodged a false case of beating against me
and my Father u/s 452,323,504,506. Police arrested us and we
got bail the next day from the local court. Her previous attempt
to do the same was not fulfilled during 498A
6) Apr\'2005-- Court ordered for maint. & for filing W/s
7) Aug\'2005-- Court ordered her to file W/s, else he would
8) Sep\'2005-- She filed W/s
9) Nov\'2005-- She filed divorce u/s 13 I (ia), (ib)
She even spread a story that her father died because of me ???
My MIL wants money for her son.
Now this is my story, where I\'m jobless, just helping my father
in his small business.
No. 66 from lucknow
sir, this is the case of me brother in law AP who was married
on 25 feb 2004 with girl of dehradoon. it was an arranged marriage
and every thing happen in a very cool manner.(IN LUCKNOW)
after marriage the girl after living one monthe in lucknow with
father and motherinlaws she went to Narora where my brotherinlaw
is working as scinetific officer.
there she started making propoganda and creating scenes-she
always talked to his jija ji(her sisters husband)for more than
a hour in delhi and that also almost daily & when she was stopped
by my brother inlaw she said i have seen many scientific officers
and will leave you giving divorce .
when we came to know this we suggeted to go for a long trip
so that hermind can change and she will be able to adjust with
you ,my brother inlaw took ltc and they went to south trip for
one month he also presented a diamond ring to her on her birthday.
after comming back she again started doing same things she always
went to club have some food there and my brotherinlaw came from
office shesays that she will not have food as i have taken and
i will make maggi for u.
one day both of them started arguing on some issue and girl
went back to dehradoon and she took allthe gold jwellery and
other things with her ,now she is there from past six months
and doing job in some school.(her father came and took her away)
now after six months she has filed a fir blaming my brotherinlaw,
my fatherinlaw and motherinlaw u/s 498a,323,934(d). we got a
stay order against arrest but now the matter is that the case
has been sent to counciling and date of counciling is 1 march,
girl is ready to come back and live again but now we dont that
girl again and want divorce.
As per advice of ADM(dehradoon) he said that you have to admit
that you wanted to keep her because if you say that you dont
want to keep her all the charges will automatically be proved
please suggest me some way out to help my brotherinlaw to save
from that girl ,because if she comes back there is no gurantee
that she will not file another fir for the same issue again
after 2 to 3 months
hoping for way out to file an divorcecase and get rid of this
dowary and haressement cases.
please help me.
No. 67 from Hyderabad
....it\'s my brother\'s wife who filed the case against my bro
and us....the case is in the stage of negotiating for settlement
...but her father is claiming for somewer around twenty lakhs.....
they never gave us dowry....and we got the marriage arranged
instead of them doin the preparations..... still they\'re expecting
exorbitant amouunt. plz advise on the way of carrying forward
No. 68 from Gurgaon
Wife left on 03-Oct-04 after quarrel and abuse of whole family,
wrote her 3 letters in Oct-04/ Nov-04/ Jan-05, got reply but
no regret on behavior, served legal notice in Dec-04.
After threats in Mar-05, filed RCR on 12-Mar-05. Her advocate
appeared on 10-Aug-05 after 3 summons. She filed transfer of
RCR in SC in Sep-05. Transfer petition dismissed in Jan-06.
Came to know in Jan-06 that she had filed 498A with other sections
in Jun-05 accussing whole family (Father, Mother, elder married
sister and younger unmarried sister and myself). Got copy of
complaint from Ranchi court. Cognizance on complaint by her
on 08-Feb-06. Preparing to file AB for family and Revision petition
for 498A case dismissal as we have got lot many evidences. Next
RCR hearing date on 23-Feb-06.
No. 69 from New Delhi
Following has happend with me and my families till date.
1. Married in Feb 2003 according to Hindu rituals. This was
2. Within the first month itself she ran away from my house
AFTER MIDNIGHT FOR NO REASON and came back after 3-4 hours.
3. I tried to enquire the reason, she said, this marriage was
against her will and she wanted to marry someone else.
4. When my parents tried to sort the matter out, she kicked
my father. Aggrieved by such abusive behaviour, my father (and
other family members) disconnected relations from me.
5. My father in law demanded 15 Lakhs, saying that we want to
remarry our daughter to someone else. So, give us this much
amount OR we will implicate you in false dowry harassment cases.
6. As my wife was pregnant at that time, she threatened to pay
her Rs. 15 Lakhs and divorce otherwise she will kill the child.
7. I filed a police complaint regarding this, requesting police
to save the unborn child. But Police didnt take any action.
So, i tried to put my request in the court, there too a LONG
date was given. MEANWHILE, the delivery time came and she was
at her parents house. THEY REALLY KILLED THE CHILD, as i was
not ready for divorce and not in a position to pay that much
8. After doing all this things, no department/officer is paying
attention to my request. My inlaws are still making their unlawfull
demands. Case is in the court and \'Date after Date\' is going
on. Till date i am feeling depressed because of all this. I
wonder what was the fault of the new born, who was killed by
them at the time of birth. It was a baby girl.
9. Currently I am running from pillar to post in hope of justice.
As they are politically very sound, so no one is paying attention
to my case.
10. At last i can conclude that DUE TO THIS BLACKMAILING TOOL
IN THE FORM OF \'FALSE DOWRY HARASSMENT COMPLAINT + ARRESTING
OF ALL ACCUSED WITHOUT ENQUIRY\' (as no one in our family history
been to police stations or Jail), I have lost my relations with
THREE generations i.e. My Parents (and inlaws) + My brother
(and brother in laws) + My daughter (Already killed). In future
too i dont think that they will understand the importance of
As i want to maintain secrecy about my case etc. so i cannot
attach any documents here, but every document etc. are available
with me. IF ANYONE OF YOU WANTS TO SEE THEM you can write to
No. 70 from pune-mumbai
Find below a brief about my case:
1. I, my Wife and my son (5 years as of now) were staying at
Chembur, Mumbai. MY Wife, under depressions - owing to various
reasons, including slow academic progress of my child etc, comitted
suicide on 11 dec 2004.
2. Follwoing this my in-laws registered a false complaint against
me, under sec 306, 304(b) - implying harrasment and abetment
of suicide. After 4 days of the above mentioned FIR, they further
gave an additional statement claiming demand of dowry and inluded
the section 498a against me.
3. During the entire period of my married life, from (29.12.1999)
till the said unfortunate incident, there were no complaints
against me by my in-laws.
4. In fact during a couple of family meetings we had in the
one year period, prior to this incidednt, it clearly came out
that my wife is being very stuborn and is unable to make the
change-over of a college girl to a Wife.She found the responsibilities
associated with marriage, responsibilities of the growing kid
etc. to be too demanding.
5. After this incident (suicide of my wife)my in-laws have forcibly
taken away my Child.
6. The case filed by my in-laws is in Sessions court Mumbai.
7. I have filed a case for grant of Custody of My Son, in Family
Court Bandra. Presently i have been allowed access to my son
fortnightly for 4 hours in the family court premises of Pune.
8.Being a govt. Sevarnt and the nature of case against me I
am under suspension.
I am intersted in interacting/meeting victims of similar cases(including
ipc 304(b)and 306). please contact.
No. 71 from amritsar
THIS WAS OUR SECOND MARRIAGE.MARRIAGE WAS HELD IN AMRITSAR .IMMEDIATELY
AFTER MARRIAGE SHE STARTED THREATENING ME TO TAKE MY SHARE FROM
MY FAMILY AND JOIN HER FATHER OR OTHERWISE SHE WOULD GET MY
2 BROTHERS KILLED .AS SHE USE TO SAY HER FATHER AND UNCLES ARE
BIG GUNDAS OF JALLANDHAR WITH GREAT POLITICAL AND POLICE BACK
.DUE TO THIS TENSION MY FATHER EXPIRED AFTER 21 DAYS OF MY MARRIAGE
.MY ELDER BROTHER STARTED LIVING SICK BECAUSE HER FATHER USE
TO THREATEN HIM ON PHONE THAT HE SHOULD STOP GOING TO OFFICE
AND HANDLE ENTIRE BUSINESS TO ME .THOUGH OUR FAMILY WAS LIVING
UNDER ONE ROOF BUT ONLY MY KITCHEN WAS SEPERATE BECAUSE OF HER
QUARRELSOME NATURE .BUT STILL HER FATHER USED TO COME TO OUR
HOUSE TO THREATEN MY BROTHERS .WE HAD ONE DAUGHTER BUT SHE USED
TO BEAT HER AND SHE USED TO THREATEN ME THAT SHE WOULD KILL
OUR 11 MONTHS OLD DAUGHTER AS I USED TO LOVE MY DAUGHTER VERY
SHE LEFT MY HOUSE ON 7TH JULY WITH ENTIRE JEWELLERY AND PRECIOUS
THINGS FROM OUR HOUSE I COULD NOT TAKE ANY SOLID STEP AGAINST
THIS BECAUSE MY BROTHER WAS VERY SERIOUS AND I DID NOT WANT
TO INCREASE HIS TENSIONS. ON 31 JULY MY BROTHER EXPIRED BUT
NEITHER SHE NOR ANYBODY ELSE FROM THERE FAMILY TO OUR HOUSE.
She came with her father DS and his brother SSM and other two
brothers and accompanying ten more people on dt 18th aug,2005
. instead of showing any grief they spoke abusive language and
said that they will kill us . for our safety we filed a complaint
in civil line thane of amritsar S H O SSH ensured us that he
will take the necessary steps and we need not worry.he told
us that he knows makkars very well and he will talk to them
and solve the case but he didnot give any complaint copy and
we also filed a divorce case that day . on 20 aug 2005 the makkars
came accompaning some police man at 6;30 am at our house and
threaten our family as me and my brother were out of town they
cut our electricity.searched our house without any document.since
then we our out of our town . pls help us because our family
is in great trouble .
No. 72 from Chennai
My wife filed 498A on 8/26/2005 and the police immdly came to
my house and took my father. As he is an Advocate they didn\'t
arrest him and left him and asked him to bring me. We have got
Anticipatory bail. The charges in 498A are very wrong and we
have got divorce also. The chargeshhet is filed and anytime
we may receive summons.
My X-Wife filed this just to get divirce as she fell in love
with soembody else.
1)How much time normally these kind of cases take to get us
2)Is there anyway this case can be comrpimised?
No. 73 from Bhopal, MP
I got married to SP at my parental house on 27.4.94. After marriage
I felt that she is not true to me. One night I found her opening
the main door at 12 o clock. I got up and asked why. She made
so many unreliable excuses. Since she never used to check/ close
the main door, It was reviewing situation for me. Right from
marriage she did not co operate in sexual matters.Whenever I
used to approach she used to cry for no reason so scared due
to insult I used to draw back or simply end up without penetration
as she desired that way.I wanted a child soon and she was not
cooperating. Some times she used to injure my face, hands and
penis with her nails to avoid relations. Whenever she used to
visit her parents, she desired to be there only and returned
only after great persuations by me.If I tell something she was
ready with her suitcase to go to her parents.After some months
of marriageI took her to Dr Madhuri Mittal ( GYnaecologist)
at DEhradoon where I was posted.After check up doctor diagnosed
that there was swelling in the ovary. She also told that the
way Sushma is non cooperative even in check up I wonder how
do you do the sex.She advised some medicines which I gave to
my wife but she had thrown them and said she had taken them.Under
such circumstances god knows how, but she concieved a child
after 7 months of marriage. Her non cooperations continued.
We got first issue a daughter in July 1995.Advertantly she kept
doing the things that created in me a doubt about her loyalty
to me.After three and half years we got second male issue in
Feb 1999 after similar drama where I was asked by her to have
fertility check up of both of us inspite of the fact that she
knew she was befooling me. The things progressed. She started
demandind a new, house, a new car, new furniture and other domestic
appliances. I purchased all these things on departmental loan
and GPF advance. In the meanwhile all her relatives had been
demanding the money from me on the pretext of loans for constructing
the houses.Because by now I had understood their greedineess,
I explained them my inability to yield to that.Then she started
asking me for putting some lakhs of money as her bank balance.
The things went on getting bitter and bitter from her side.
She started (July, 2002)to sleep at night in different room
till now (21.12.05) the date of her leaving from our house.
She left teaching her own children from July, 2002 onwards.She
did not love them and kept a distance.She used to create diputes
from pretty small issues and threatened to complain in the police
and jail me.Inspite of all this I was bearing for the sake of
family integrity, childeren and social status for last about
12 years of married life. But now when she has left my home
along with all her jewellary and clothes etc for about two months,
I registered a complain in Mahila thana,Parivar Pramarsh Kendra
at Bhopal with a request to call her back to home. She denied
to them also which they have recorded in a register. I made
so many calls on phone but she either denied or simply cut the
call. I request your good self to kindly suggest me what should
I do now or how I react if she files some legal case on me.
How should I protect self and childeren.
With great hopes
No. 74 from Australia
I wish to get your advice, on my current situation.
Iam working in Australia,My wife has filed a false
complaint in police cell against my parents and
me,under dowry harassment.Currently My parents got
bail from the district court,and the court has
arranged for a counselling,the date is not mentioned
I am a permanent resident here,for the counselling
will the judge ask my presence.If so what are the
precautions I need to take,as I am supporting my
family,and in future want to spend for my daughter.
As a permanent resident still the indian laws are
valid for me?
She was not staying with me for two years plus,she
dont want to support my parents and spend for them.At
this age who will take care of them.
Please advice how to proceed further,can I file a
divorce case from here?or can I get a power of
attorney for my divorce case in india.
No. 75 from Abu Dhabi (UAE)
I had Caught my wife living in adultery with my friends in Dubai
on 23rd April,2005. Have letters and mobile recording of her.
My daughter is eye-witness to jer unbecoming behaviour. She
accepted her fault, and I told her that I shall now seek divorce.
Brought whole family from Abu dhabi on 28th April,2005. She
was left at Her parent\'s house. I took my children with me.
Two days later, she was to meet at Family court to discuss mutual
consent divorce to save the face of her family. After 4 days,
I was summoned by Police of her area as she has filed CR106/2005
under IPC498a on 4th May\'2005. My lawyer told me to proceed
to my work. I was arrested like a terrorist at Mumbai airport
at Immogration on 7th May,2005. I surrendered. Was brought at
Police Station, and put behind bar along with hard-core criminals.
My relatives came, including lawyer. My children/cousins sang
bhajans/prayed outside the jail. IT WAS THERE I LEARNT WHAT
IPC-498a IS, AND WHAT DEVASTATING BLOWS IT CAN LAND ON ONE\'S
LIFE!! BUT purely by the Grace of Sai Baba, I got bail at mid-night
just before police was preparing to carry out thier usual round
of beating arrested persons!
Next day, I hired a local lawyer thru the help of same police
station, paid hafty amount only to apply for return of passport.
Again, God\'s hand was seen - Judge heard my prayer which I
myself narrated, and granted me permission to go back to work
abroad with conditions to retain my children in India. I obyed
I got my children admitted in residential school outside Mumbai.
Filed Divorce under crualty/adultery on 15th June\'05. Attended
498a charge-sheet filing on 16th June\'2005. My Wife later filed
children custody and maintenance petitions in family court.
Later, She applied 3 Interim applications. I attended family
court on 1st Dec\'05. She later went to High Court, and managed
thru wrong means a stay order on my NRI-SBI Bonds. I attended
498a trial on 23rd Jan\'2006. It was usual drama of attendance
with long date after 6 months!
I attended family court on 24th Jan\'2006 along with my two
children. Again attended family court on 13th feb\'2006 along
with childre. I was made to bring children to court on both
occasions! Returned her passport, and disclosed whereabouts
of children to her before court. I challanged her Stay Order
in Appeal Court on 15th feb\'06 and exposed her lawyer\'s fraud
of getting Stay-order to frustrate me! HC accepted the appeal
and fired/warned her lawyer. HC asked us not to come to HC again,
and to rely on family court verdicts. Main trial has yet to
I am using lots of tips posted on SIF group website. Thru my
SUF friends advice, I could use certain tactics, and I guess,
mentally I am in strong positions - for the reasions that I
still have my jobs, my children are studying well, healthy,
happy and are on my side. T\\MY CHILDREN HATE THEIR BIOLOGICAL
MOTHER, AND HARDLY MISS THIER MOTHER. MY DAUG. IS 13-1/2 YRS
AND SON IS 10YRS.
NOW THE BALL IS IN HER COURT. UNLESS SHE QUASHES 498A IN HC,
NO SETTLEMENT IS POSSIBLE FROM MY SIDE. I AM READY TO PROVE
I THANK ALL SIF MEMBERS WHO HAVE BOOSTED OUR MORAL. I SUGGEST
ALL VICTIMNS NOT TO GIVE UP, NEVER THINK OF SUICIDE ETC. TRUTH
ALWAYS WINS, THOUGH IT HAS TO TRAVERSE THRU TROUBLED WATERS.
HAVE FIRM FAITH IN GOD, AND PROCEED WITH RIGHT ACTION, AND \'CHAANKYA
JAI SAI RAM!
No. 76 from jharkhand
I am in a awakard situation. My wife\'s elder brother\'s wife
filed 498a and involved her husband, father and mother in law
and myself. We all 4 had been summoned by court at dhanbad.
I turned up but rest all 3 didn\'t. When I alone appeared before
the court, I was sent to custody in the month of Aug 2005. I
was very much shocked and got fainted before the court. After
staying in jail for 5 days I was released on bail by my parents
from district court. Those 5 days were most horrible days in
my life. The allegation they have made on me are as follows:-
a) I asked for Five Lakhs for purchasing a flat.
b) I asked for Fifty Thousand for purchasing a Motor Bike.
c) I used abusive words upon her.
But the truth is I had hardly talked with them ever and all
the above allegations are baseless.
Presently the girl\'s husband has sought stay order upon this
case from high court. But my position still hanging. On every
court date I have to attend and come back. This is hampering
my day to day activity and peace in my life. Sometime I just
wonder where and how to get justice from this ill-practice.
Please suggest, help me regarding how to get rid of this as
soon as possible. I pray to the God that never punish or jail
any innocent person.
No. 77 from Mulund
My brother was married in Jan-2000. We live in a joint family.
Initially my brother wife would try to create a misunderstanding
between my brother and family members by complaining about us.
It carried on and in the year 2002 my brother had a daughter
My brother\'s wife and family were dissappointed because since
there is no boy in their family and there were hoping that there
would be a boy. She was delivered in Chembur. As per our tradition
first delivery preference is given to the girl side and if they
say no then we take the responsibility. they had agreed and
had taken their daughter. But after their daughter gave birth
to a girl they started saying that we cannot keep the naming
ceremony in a grand manner and that we should keep it by calling
only 4 -5 members.
We did not agree to it and we brought my brother\'s wife and
did the naming ceremony at our place. After say 1 year my brother\'s
wife started having an affair with someone else. She use to
say lies and go to roam with him. In one instance on a dassera
day she told she is going for dassera puja in office and went.
That day my brother\'s daughter had fever. My brother told her
not to go but she said that she will be back soon. Since she
did not reach home by 1 in the afternoon my brother rang up
her office and he was told that she had left the office at 11.
when she finally came at 4 in the vening my brother asked her
where she was. She told that she was in office and when he told
her that he had rung up then she told that she went to her friends
house. It is after threatening her that my brother will tell
her parents then she admitted that she had gone for lunch with
our neighbour with whom she is having an affair.
We have given twice warning and even told her mother and said
that we had enquired and come to know that before marriage she
was having an affair so they had sent her to native place. Her
mother says tbat so what happens. Everybody has an affair and
that she thought that she will improve after the marriage.
But one day she came in auto all the way from bhandup and did
not pay the auto bill and told the driver that she is bring
money and she came home. When my brother came from office ,
one of our friends told him that his wife had not paid the auto
bill and the auto driver was searching her and gave bad words
and went. When my brother came and asked her she told she came
in bus. This way she started to spoil our name in our locality.
She use to contact the boy with whom she had affair on cell
from outside and once my brother caught her red handed. So she
told she does not want to stay and she went in Sept 2004. The
daughter is my us. She did not even bothered to call the daughter
or meet her. When my brother told her that he did not want to
stay with her then she filed an false complaint with the police
station that we are harassing her for dowry and that my brother
is drinking and beating her. My brother has gone numerous to
the police station and the police are saying that u take her
inside or we will put all the four members ( ie. my brother,
myself, my wife and my mother ). We were very tensed because
we have not even touched her and that now she had put a false
complaint. The police say to take her but now my brother and
we are not interested in taking her. We told to the police to
do the inquiry at our place whether we are really harassing
her but they say that in this section we can put you behind
bars with out any enquiry and that they have not registered
yet the case. They say if you do not take her inside then they
will register and put us inside.
Now I request you to give us the right advice because we are
really mentally tortured for the thing which we have not done.
I know the law is made to protect women but in this century
there are women like my brother\'s wife who take advantage of
this law and try to torture their husband and the members. So
just please mail me your advice.
No. 78 from London
MY WIFE AND HER PARENTS ARE ASKING FOR 10 LAKH RUPEES AND SIGHNING
OF DIVORCE PAPERS WITHOUT REASONING IT. OTHERWISE THEY ARE THREATENING
THAT THEY WILL FILE FALSE 498A AND SEND MY ENTIRE FAMILY BEHIND
No. 79 from Delhi
She lived only few weeks in 1 and half yrs as she is working
as lecturer in the Govt. collage. Take back to her father\'s
Forged the signature and tranfer the a/c to her father\'s home
and withdraw Rs 30,000.
Given her credit card and visa to go to UK.
Later filed the case with some documents:
1. A mail with no meaning.
2. A piece of paper which claims that car was demanded it\'s
also altered with two differnt writing.
3. A piece of paper which claimed, that much amount was demanded.
Due u thing we can filed the case of forgery and producing the
false documents in the court.
This can help us in some extent.
No. 80 from Delhi
We are Australian citizens and have moved back to India because
of my wife\'s parent\'s interference. For almost 8 years they
have been interferring in our lives and for no reason have been
taunting me all these 8 years by calling me Alcoholic, Beggar
On their interference/ advise we moved bcak to India on their
promise that they would help me set up business in India. I
told they I have \"X\" amount to which they said that would
be sufficient. In India they made me spend double of what intially
was committed and when the factory started they bought machines
and moulds and asked me to job work for them. When we discussed
the rates they told me they will pay me 1/3rd of market rates.
To which I objected and wound of my business in 15 days.
They agreed to buy the machines at discount etc. Now they are
paying me this money by chq of 50,000 every month. This will
take 14 months to clear.
My wife abuses my parents (my mother is on death bed), slapped
my father and threatens me with suicide or going to police claiming
that I ask for dowry.
Since we are foreign citizens, do you think the police can still
arrest me ??
Please help !!!!!
No. 81 from Mangalore
I am working with a construction company, and sometimes i have
to leave my wife with my parents, but she does not coperate
with my duties, also she doesn\'t want to stay with my parents.
She is very bad in compromising with my duties.
I & my parents given her much love & almost everything but still
she feels that i am not taking care of her. She like to sleep
till late & not at all interested in doing any thing in the
home when we live with the my parents.
The main problem is that i want to saty in joint family with
my parents & brother and she is not interested at all.Moreover
she listens to her parents more than what is required to make
her career better with me.
THe worst came in April-2005 when she went out to police station
& filed a complaint that i had beaten her & also that we (Myself
& my parents)are harassing her for dowary, whereas in fact at
that my enough money was available with her father which he
had use in the marriage of his son.
The police came to our house and taken away all of us to police
station, but as we had some contacts so some how after lot of
discussion the case was not registered. In this whole case her
parents (father ) was also present & taken his daughters side.
Till that day i felt very ashmed & unable to talk with my wife
even though she is leaving with me......
No. 82 from Kolkata
I am living with my in-laws for last 5 months. We visted my
native place, which is 40km distance from calcutta, 4 to 5 times
during weekend. After certain point of time, my wife showed
the reason that my mom is trying to witchcarft as she notice
a yellow cloth tied with yellow string. She and her anut went
to a Midnapor occult art paractinoer who claims she can see
things from even the other part of the world. We have a court
marriage in 2001 and both the in-laws were not happy with that.
However, they eventually come up to some understanding and on
my mother\'s request, we had social marriage in 2003.
My wife and myself both work in same company. Though my wife
has never been to my native place, she still thinks my parents
are upto breaking the marriage. She is completely whimsical.
To satisfy her, I have given my a/c password and she manipulates
the money. She, in times, has been very good to my parents and
gifted them things worth 8,000 ruppes, in next days, she uses
all kinds of imporper words.
I went to my native place in the weekend and come back to my
in-laws place on 20th. It has happened previosuly that even
if I went to my native place alone, she never used to take it
in good faith. Her intention was, I should abandon my family
and embrace whatever she does.
On 21st, as things heated up, she hit me in my genital and as
reflex action, I did hit her once. Then her two brother start
hitting me. They call police and to the police, my wife has
given a written complaint over all my \"wrong doings\" in last
5 years. As per the police officer\'s advice, I gave a statement
saying it was just a misunderstanding and we will make up. Since
then, I am staying quitely in the same place. As I didn\'t start
conversing with my wife again, my in-laws are pressurizing and
threatening me to do so. And my wife wants to bring me down
and put all of my relatives in jail.
Today, 24th Februrary, 2006, when I said I will be out for the
weekend, my in-laws said I should be there as there will be
someone coming for counselling. Quickly it was clear that the
person coming on Sunday is the police officer himself. I was
threatened by the words like \"Bring on your family, otherwise
police will go and drag your parents here\". It comes very clear
that my in-laws went to police even after that day. I wanted
to quit the place, but I was threatened that as soon as I do
that, they will file 498a and they will ruin me.
That is being the problem from a long time. I could not do anything
because of such threat and we were mostly outside out native
Please help me as I am living in this strained environment,
under threat and sentimental blackmailing.
No. 83 from Madras
My wife has been harassing me for many years now. She says I
do not earn enough money. When I refused to buy her a qualis,
she went to her mother\'s house and in one months time filed
and FIR. The case has been filed, but no progress from the police.
Women\'s cell has taken up the matter. I will be attending a
negotiation process soon. What should I ask for? anything to
keep in mind?
No. 84 from Byculla, Mumbai - 400008
My wife keeps me and my mother harassing.
I am doing job the whole day I am in office when I return home
there is always a complain about my mother I hear but which
she does not do it delibertly
She has a very touch tough and keep saying thinks to my mother
unnecessary things to her (always TANA)
Some of thinks my wide keeps on saying are :
My son fail because of her (as of today)
I(myself) only talks to her(mother) and never talk to me
she had (breast cancer) because of her
she does all black magic on me etc.
On the contarary every things is opposite.
My wife is from a rich family and spent like nothing.
I am doing job and so I have to spent economically on my wife
tells to sell away my house, and shift to vadodara and and let
my sister\'s to keep my mother ( my two sister married and stays
in vadodara), which I will never like.
Please advices me on this matter to what to do.
I have two sons ( 15 yrs and 8 yrs)
No. 85 from chennai
She belongs to leading family near Tanjore. Her reletives claim
her family is under the spell of one LK a temple priest running
a private temple at Naganallur. Claimed she is M Sc Bio Physics
from Anna University Campus of MU, Rank holder etc but false.
Our FIR is pending (Extrtion, Intimidiation etc.)Our petition
for Nullity of marriage pending.Aso her petition for JS pending
at Family Court Chennai
Her sister who is with Capital One Virginia Who appeared to
be decent now keeps silent
Many proceedings thro LK group but resisited by us
No. 86 from USA
submits as follows:
It is submitted that the Complainant is a Engineer Graduate
and her alliance was settled with Accused No.1 and she is married
with Accused No.1 on 27-8-2004 at a Function Hall, Bowenpally,
Secunderabad according to Hindu rites and customs.
It is submitted that at the time of marriage Accused No.1 to
4 have demanded an amount of Rs.4 lakh cash, House hold articles
worth of Rs.1 lakh as dowry and accordingly the Accused have
received the above said dowry. The marriage was performed in
a grand manner as desired by the Accused and incurred an expenditure
of Rs.4 lakhs.
It is submitted that Accused No.1 is the husband of the Complainant;
Accused No.2 is the mother of the Accused No.1 and Accused No.3
& 4 are sisters of Accused No.1.
It is submitted that immediately after marriage, the Complainant
joined Accused No.1 at the house of Accused and on 12-09-2004
the Accused No.1 left for America leaving the Complainant at
his parents house and thereafter the complainant joined her
duties in her office.
It is submitted that the Complainant who was working in [BIG
TELE COMPANY] at the time marriage is made to resign her job
at the instance of Accused No.1 in the month of May 2005 on
the promise that she would be taken to America and Accused No.1
took the pass port of the Complainant under the pretext and
detained the same without making any efforts to take the Complainant
It is submitted that till November 2004 Accused No.1 used to
call the Complainant on phone from U.S.A. but thereafter Accused
No.1 started abusing the Complainant one pretext or other and
stopped talking with the Complainant though he was calling on
phone and to his mother and his sisters and then onwards of
the Accused No.1 was totally changed to the Complainant.
It is submitted that since November 2004 Accused No.2 started
abusing the Complainant, torturing and ill-treating her petty
issues and always picking up quarrels with Complainant without
any faults of the Complainant and Accused No.2 further harassed
the Complainant by removing the maidservant to make the Complainant
to do the entire household work though she was working in a
[BIG TELE COMPANY] as an Engineer.
It is submitted that Accused No.2 and Accused No.3 and Accused
No.4 frequently used to visit the house of Accused No.2 and
A2 to A4 never used to talk with the Complainant and used to
pickup quarrels and abuse the Complainant and they used to keep
the Complainant separately from them and to feel her lonely
and the Complainant was made to do the entire household work
and in the month of November 2004 she got fever and even then
the Complainant was totally neglected and never allowed to go
to her parents house for taking treatment.
It is submitted that on 4-3-2005 Accused No.1 came to India
but accused No.1 came to India but Accused No.1 never talked
to her and Accused No.1 to 4 used to abuse and insulted the
Complainant before other relatives and the harassment went to
peak stage and due to that the health of the Complainant was
It is submitted that in the last week of March 2005 Accused
No.1 left for America without informing the Complainant and
thereafter Accused No.2 to 4 frequently used to instigate Accused
No.1 against the Complainant though the Complainant was doing
the entire house hold work and taking care of Accused No.2 and
the Complainant was never allowed to watch T.V. and A2 to A4
used to abuse that the Complainant is not educated and does
not have any knowledge.
It is submitted that the Complainant bore up the harassment
made by the Accused with the fond of hope that the behavior
of Accused will change after some time, but the Accused instead
of change of behavior increased the harassment towards the Complainant
and Accused No.1 used to abuse the Complainant over telephone
at the insistence of A2 to A4.
It is submitted that Complainant undergone unbearable harassment
and torture in the hands of a1 to A4 and A1 used to suspected
the Character of the Complainant and threatened to take divorce
to enable him for performing another marriage and A2 to A4 started
supporting Accused No.1 and they also started behaving rudely
with the Complainant and warned her to take divorce and enable
the A1 to perform another marriage and Complainant was necked
out from their house on 15th June, 2005.
It is submitted that all the household articles and cash given
at the time of the marriage are not transferred to the Complainant
and thereby the Accused have committed an offence U/s 6 of D.P.
Act and demanded dowry at the time of marriage have committed
an offence U/s 4 of D.P. Act.
It is submitted that the demand of dowry and payment of dowry
took place at the house of parents of the complainant which
is situated under the limits of Balanagar P.s. and consequences
of the Complainant is being subjected to cruelty also resulted
on the Complainant returning to her parents house at Balanagar
where she is undergoing unbearable cruelty on account of the
actions of accused and thus the Accused have committed an offence
U/s 498(A), 406 of I.P.C. and 4 & 6 of D.P. Act under the limits
of Balanagar P.S which is under the jurisdiction of this Honorable
It is submitted that Accused No.1 simply has married the Complainant
in order to gain more dowry and later on ignoring the Complainant
altogether and behaving as if he is not married to the Complainant
shows that A1 has married the Complainant only for the purpose
of material gain with no intention to lead matrimonial life
with the complainant.
The Complainant submits that having regard to the nature of
the offence which is non-bail able and cognizable in nature
and the same is required to be thoroughly investigated by Police.
Hence it is prayed that this Honorable Court may be pleased
to refer the Complaint to P.S. Balanagar under section 156(3)
of Cr.P.C. for investigation and report and try the Accused
No.1 to 4 and thereafter in accordance with the law in the interest
No. 87 from Andheri(w),M\'bai.
Trial Court convicted brother-in-law, father-in-law & Mother-in-law
with fine and 1month presion .
Apeal-fully discharged even the fine refunded, case found to
be without bases.
It is realsised that the marrage was done by the girl just to
grab property with active canviance of her relatives and this
has been their family practice.
She has taken subsetential assets of ours and have sopiled our
family raputation of more then 100years.
The background of the girl is that her forfather were staying
in a chawl and they are staying in a small flat,and all there
close relativer are from the same background, where as we are
a known family in Bombay and through out India by our name.
Since the case has been disposed of in 2002 and even divourse
granted in 2004 by the family court.
How such people can be taught a lesson and governmet made to
realise the folly of such onesided law.
No. 88 from Delhi
Was living separately with wife, she commited suicide, case
registered against me and my mother, father, brother(jeth) and
his wife(jethani) who have been living separately.
No. 89 from punjab
after my married she stayed at matrimonial house for only 25days.her
own parents came without any prior intimation or gave any plausible
reason for their visit on 26 feb 2003.They quarelled with us
and took away their daughter alongwith all ornaments and valuable
clothes.after that filed a case u\\s 125crpc against me at Hoshiarpur
which was transferred to garhshankar.reason being influence
of girls father who is advocate at hoshiarpur.filed also 498a
applicion with the police hoshiarpur against me which was after
Enqury was filed in my favour on 16 dec 2005 nw they 498A\\406\\156\\3
in hoshiarpur court we r at bail at present and facing this
No. 90 from Mumbai
Started creating fabricated story against my mothere. she is
career orineted.Left the home in Nov. 2005. Insisting on seperating
out from parents and having no relation with them Threatning
of legal action if i dont seperate out
No. 91 from Fremont,CA
My brother had filed for a divorce from USA.She had abadoned
and left USA with the child October 2004.I havent seen or spoken
to his wife for over 3 years. I had to go tho India for my motherinlaw\'s
death in June 2005 with my 2 small kids aged 6 and 4..The petitioner,my
brothers wife filed a 498a on July 5th 2005.I was arrested along
with my aged mother and remanded to judicial custody.The police
didnt ask us anything or listen to our story.Then we got bail,my
passport was seized by the court. I applied for the quash of
Fir.It was accepted in the Madras high court and all the investigation
was stopped till the Police came up with evidence.IN the meanwhile
I applied for passport release and relaxation of bail which
was granted by the lower court in Chennai.Now I am waiting for
the final hearing of mu quash in the high court.
No. 92 from madras
My wife has filed a case in the court for divorce on the
grounds of dowry harassment and cruelty. She is also holding
my one year old baby to ransom. They demand 25 lakh rupees
to be paid failing which they threaten us that they will
As her family has 2 lawyers, i find it difficult to tackle
this outrageous harassment.
Having given her a good life to the best of my knowledge,
i never ever expected her to react in such a fashion.
Any help for me and my one year old daughter would
be highly appreciated. I feel that by going public, i
have a better chance of fighting for justice and it\'d
give me a chance to prove my innocence. How should i
go about it. Please let me know about it asap. I need
my daughter and i am unable to let her be held as a
hostage by my greedy in-laws !!!!!
No. 93 from Howrah
my in-laws, mostly my father-in-law wants me to follow his advice
and told me to severe all relations with my parents, relatives
as well as my friends and I\'ve to leave my house and parents.
on protest he threats me saying that \"If I didn\'t follow him
and If I did\'nt arrange for a seperate accomodation following
his liking he will put me and my parents behind bars.\" I also
have to take permission from my in-laws to meet my parents,
knowing that I\'m the only son of my parents.The blackmailing
becomes so accute that I can\'t tolarate and make a protest
saying that \"I\'ll stay with my wife seperately in our own
house instead of talking a seperate accomodation and I will
also fulfill my duties towards my parents, nobody can\'t stop
me.\" After that my father-in-law instigate & provoked my wife
to lodged a 498a and issue a arrest warrent accusing me and
my mother. later I came to know from some person that he done
this to make me bow down in front of him and also to harres
me. Now the police has filed the CS, and the case is in Court.
Please help me so that I can make a protest against this.
No. 94 from belapur, New Bombay
My wife is extremely hot headed.Has attempted suicide six months
after marriage,was hospitalised but i dont have those papers.She
is inhospitable, nagging,adamant,not ready to acclimatise with
inlaws.She has filed a complaint with social counselling cell
at crawford market,police commissioner office against me ,my
two brothers,mum,dad. After 2 hearings i told the police & her,
i don\'t want to keep her with me.So they have told us to come
on 11th March 2006.I want to divorce her & also want custody
of my 17 month daughter.Please help
No. 95 from new jersey
My parents & siblings are going thru hell they have to come
very month from tamilnadu to delhi for hearing and the stupid
judges dont understand anybody.
No. 96 from United kingdom
filed case under IPC 498a,420 and one more.actually i\'m on
student\'s visa in UK for the last three years.she is on dependent
visa.then shefiled case here in UK.and then her father filed
case in india.she is still in UK on my dependent visa.her father
is not interested in taking the things back but only in the
criminal proceeding leedimg to imprisonment.so no negotiation.
there was no actual dowry or physical harassment. my parents
are already in the custody for 1day.still no bail.rest all accused
live in UK.one sister and brother-in-law are holder of British
passport.one sister is on work permit.pls help
No. 97 from Bangalore
We got married on 12 dec 2002, just after few months they started
dominating & putting themselves over us. Even they used to take
her daughter without my or my family consent. I used to get
upset due to their behavior & had argument over this but she
never realizes her & her Parents mistakes moreover she just
blame us for everything.
She also used to behave very erratically sometimes & believe
as she & her parents are GOD. She just listen to her Parents
& never listen to me.
She used to go to her parentís house for couple of days & stay
there for weeks & when I used to call her to take her back at
particular day, her Mother used to deny and says the day is
not good to take her back.
One day me & my wife had to attend a get-together as my company
CEO was coming but she went with her parents to some other occasion.
So I got very annoyed with the incident & we had a quarrel over
the issue. There are several incidents due to which our relation
grew soar. Her mother, father & brother started threatening
me & my family with dire consequences. Even her Brother came
to my home & threatened my parents, broke the utensils & disconnected
the phone line by pulling the cable out. Even her father & mother
came to my house & threatened my parents & me. They used to
say that Police & Police station are their own they will send
all of us to jail.
My friends advised me to live separate with the parents. Considering
all I shifted from Delhi to Bangalore in July 05 with my wife
& child thinking that they will not interfere in my life anymore.
But they (In-laws) came here in Dec 05 pretending to go to Kenyakumari
but stayed with us. During that time my friend was coming to
stay with me. Situation gets tensed & after staying for 5-6
day they went back (not sure). Couple of days after on 10 Dec
05 her Father came in the night with a police man & took me
to Byppanahalli Police station & kept me in the police station
for whole night & went to stay in a hotel. Next morning in presence
of SHO I was shocked to know that they have given false & cooked
complaint of dowry & mental harassment against me. Somehow I
managed to convince SHO that the complaint is false but the
matter will be solved without escalating further. As a matter
of fact that I am against the demand of dowry & I never asked
her directly or indirectly a single paisa. All agreed & things
got normal & her father along with her &child went to Delhi.
She came back after more then a month & a week in Jan 06, she
was very happy & I also believed that now she would not repeat
On 19 Feb my Parents & we came back from my Brother home in
Coimbatore but could not find the door keys. My father asked
my mother to search for it but she could not find it in her
purse, my father also searched her purse then he asked my wife,
she also could not find it but my father asked her to search
it again & she started shouting at him, I asked her to stop
but she continued. I asked my father to stop saying anything
to her but she kept on shouting that we all are torturing her
& she will send all of us to jail. During shouting she was saying
that she want me to die. She called her father to come here
immediately. I also shouted at her & said she is reacting like
her Parents. Since then she is behaving like insane, she does
not speak to me. Now I am very afraid of her & her Parents,
they can do anything against me.
No. 98 from Lucknow
On 25 Feb. 2005 My wife has gone with her mother to appear in
M.Com-I Exam in the absence of My parents with out permission.
After that she asked she will appear in B.Ed. entrance exam
and after that she will come back it was the month of April
2005. 1-2 month later she ringed me that she is in Banglore
and doing G.N.M. training i was shoked with our my permission
how she can do it. but I bear that. and she told that she will
return to Pali on 20th aug 2005. after that she will back to
Lucknow. But after reaching Pali she and her family forced me
to come there and take her back to Lucknow, But I denied because
of my business and Pali is more than 1000 Km. far from Lucknow.
So I told that as you go there without my permission and with
out me come here as the same way. on this, my mother-in-law
& my wife becomes very aggressive and they warn me that I have
to come there either by self or with the Police. We did not
responsed it and don\'t think any negative. but after few days
we got chained calls from Dy. SP (Pali) , Mahila Thana (Pali)
that my wife has laudged a complaint against me and my whole
family. As one main thing I want to mentioned that my brother
does not live with us she is residing at Raigarh(Chattisgarh)
and my sister residing at Kolkata (W.B.) and she complained
that we all torchered her, so Mahila thana Adhyakas Jyoti Charan
told us to come there with whole family for settlement in the
presence of Police. But we denied as We don\'t think it is the
safe way for settlement in Police Thana. after that on 27 Nov.
they send a police man to take me there. But we send him back.
then we went to an Advocate for advise and help he said that
we will filed a case U/S-9 in the family Court. it\'s date was
24th Feb 2006 but while filed the case our harrisment by police
was continue. So we again went to the same Advocate. than he
introduced us with an advocate of High Court. and told that
we will filed a Habeus Corpus agaainst her father that he has
detained my wife. after that there will be no Police harrisment.
So we do the same. on 16 Dec. 2005 We filed Habeus Corpus. which
date for hearing was 9 Jan 2006. but on 9 Jan My wife and her
father did not come at the High Court Lucknow. On 17th Jan 2006
3 Policeman including ASI and a lady police came my home with
4 policeman of Local PS - Saadatganj, and they told that my
wife lodged a complaint 498A and we have to come with them for
Pali. but present them our Family court and High Court Writ.
which was dated for hearing on 27 Feb. 2006 , So they gone back.
On 27 Feb 2006 My wife come with her father in the High Court
and denied my all charges. After that we tried for compromise
but they did resoponsed positive. So we are afraid please help
No. 99 from thane
I have regular arguments with my wife. Many times she is threatning
me. She also abuses my parents.Still there is no breakup between
us but I am doubting she is taking legal advice.
I do not want to be caught unaware and as a precaution want
to know the do\'s and donts or any other relevant matters I
have to know in case she files a complaint.
No. 100 from delhi
case filed under the above said section parents aged 70 (father,retired)
61 (mother,housewife patient of rheumatoid artheritis on regular
medication),sister presently married and professional,
FILED FOR DIVORCE ON 9TH MARCH 2004 TRIED TO GET HER FOR COUNCELLING,DENIED
BY HER FAMILY
have been to CAW CELL 25 TIMES IN NOV 2004- JAN 2005 CASE FILED
IN FEB2005 RESENTLY ON ANTICIPATORY BAIL case filed in karkadooma
WIFE IS A GYNECOLOGIST HAVE A DAUGHTER NOW 3+ HAVE BEEN DENIED
ANY CONTACT WITH CHILD,
REMAIN DEPRESSED HELP
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